Thanks for the lovely message. Your story was so much like mine and like you we felt we were let down by Forth Park. We actually put in a formal complaint and procedures were meant to change.It was too late for us but we hoped to spare some other parents what we went through.Like you I had septaceamia and was very ill. I had to sign myself out to go to Lewis' funeral.
I hope your pregnancy is going well and look forward to seeing photos of the wee man. I know you mentioned wanting a girl and I think that is normal.Myself and the people I met at S.A.N.DS were like that at first. I went on to have a girl and one of my good friends who had lost a girl went on to have a boy! They were born just days apart which is lovely.
Having Sarah did ease the pain of losing Lewis. I have always said she was not a replacement but compansation! She has been a God-send especially since losing Kieran.
Keep in touch and let me know if I can help you in any way. give bump a wee rub for me!
Your story made me feel so sad. I lost my youngest son Lewis in 1998 when he was born too soon at Forth Park. I was a S.A.N.D.S befriender for many years and campaigned for babies under 24 weeks to be recognised and given the same respect as those over that gestation. I thought I had made changes but obviously not. I had to give up the befriending after I lost Kieran as it was taking me to deal with my own grief.
We were lucky in the respect that I told the staff I would be burying Lewis so he had a proper service and his own plot in the cemetery. I don't know how many meetings I had with Forth Park regarding giving parents information on all options but all the promises were obviously just words.I am so sorry that you were failed.
I'm sure all our darling children will be together in heaven. I know I've been told that Kieran is with Lewis and that gives me some comfort.
If you need to talk I'm not far away.
Hello Lesa ive just got your message,ive been painting so my computer has been away.I know how you feel i find it diffuicult sometimes to come on the site and read all the lovely messages that people leave for my daughter.I know its hard im here if you ever need to talk.
Love Katie(Baby Leahs mammy)
Hello Lesa ive just read your story.I lost my little girl at 22 weeks and i think its awful that they dont try and save them,no matter how old they are they still have a right to live.We were aloud a funeral but we couldnt have a church service as our angel didnt take a breath i think its all wrong.Im thinking about you and your family
Love Leah oneills mammy