Barry Harnamji

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I wanted to express my gratitude to all of you. You’ve shown me the wonderful side of humanity that I’ve forgotten. I’ve been quite a mess for a while and I’m not sure when/if it will change. I’ve stayed away from GTS because it can become very painful for me. I do try to read the candles, tributes and posts when my emotions allow and they are nothing short of inspirational. GTS has proven again that truly great people exist in this world.

Thank you again to all of our GTS friends. Barry and Robert (My Life’s Love).

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05/28/2011
It's been a very difficult past several months for me. The 4-year anniversary since losing Robert hit me much harder than I expected.
Thank you to all of you who pay tribute to my Robert. It means more to me than my words could ever express.

I realize that each of us have lost a loved one and for some of us it is much harder to cope. I've learned that the kindness of strangers has helped me feel not as alone in my grief as I have felt for so long.

Thank you again to all of my GTS friends - for all you do.
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I wanted to say ‘Thank you’ to all of my GTS friends for your support, kind thoughts and words for My Robert. Your compassion has renewed my faith in humanity.

It is often very difficult to visit your memorials because we all share such sorrow and grief. Everything you write about your loved ones shows the love and pain you endure. Although it is over 3 years since I lost Robert, I miss Him as if it was only yesterday. Thank you again, for all of the kindness and compassion you've all shown.

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I lost the two most important persons in my life within 5 months of each other. I lost my Mom on Christmas Day, 2006, and my Life-Partner, Robert Kopler, of 22 years on May 8th, 2007. They were most influential in shaping the values and morals which are most important to me. Losing both of them within such a short period brought my world to a complete standstill and life has not been the same.

I felt the need to share a little bit of my life with Robert because I, regretfully, kept our relationship a secret out of fear of retaliation from those who do not understand or those who choose not to understand or those who just hate people who are different.

Robert and I were together for twenty-two years and he is the Love Of My Life – My Soul Mate – My Life’s Love. He endured a multitude of hardship after a massive stroke in February of 1996 and further complications as the years passed. I watched him recover and make amazing progress which he could not see. I fell more in love with him as I watched this strong, amazing and independent spirit rise above so many obstacles but it was not without a hefty price.

Robert took his last breath as I held him in my arms. It is an image that is carved into my soul forever. It rips away a little of my life every day. My tears have yet to stop.