Alana Reed

Hi Alana im so very sorry about your situation, i know exactly how you feel in regards wanting another baby,to be honest i started trying just yesterday. I know my story is a bit different to yours,i too was pregnant at 18 thankfully i had the full suport of mine + my partners family.You must be devastated having people tell you not to have your baby that you were too young,my sister fell pregnant at 14 with her 1st + she is 25 now + the very proud mum of 5 kids,she has a 10 yr old boy,8yr old girl,5 yr old girl another 5 yr old who is 6 next week + a beautiful 2month old baby boy all for the same father + very much loved + cared for kids.My only other sister 19yrs lost a baby in may 2 months before i lost Kirsty,at 1 stage the 3 of us were pregnant together,my mam was delighted.She raised us girls alone + adores her grand kids,my 2 boys + my sisters 5 kids + her 2 Angel grand babies.I was in my mams when i gave birth to Kirsty + if it hadnt been for her+her husband i dont know what would of happened,i was too scared to look so they kept the baby safe until the ambulance arrived,then i had an awful 4 hrs trying to deliver the after birth,its a joke the doctor didnt want to give me pain relief until i passed it incase i got too drowzy + after 4hrs of agony they gave in + gave me pethadine + a few minutes later i managed to deliver the after birth,unfortunatley when i gave birth to the baby i freaked out + screamed for my mam to get the cord away from me, which was still atached to me + the little bag she held in her hand(my baby)so she gave it a little pinch + it came away,although i had 2 natural births my mind was a blur + at the time i didnt even know it was the cord or my baby,it happened so quick + i was in severe pain.I wish things were different for both of us,i really do.I hope your family let you come back home,you will become a mother one day maybe not now,maybe next year or 5yrs it will happen,you have lots of time to have a family + remember what happened was not your fault,the percentage of miscarriage in 1st pregnancies is extremley high.Just know that you loved+wanted your little baby so much + God chose to make little JB an Angel just like my little girl Kirsty.And i know its awful to hear of girls aborting unwanted babies, i live in Dublin + it is illeagal to abort,even so i know girls who have kids for multiple fathers + ill treat their little children, screaming at them if they cry or telling them 'shut it'when they ask a question.What i would'nt give to hear my baby cry,i long for her every minute of the day,i feel like im going mad sometimes.She wasnt due until December 16th i dont know how i will get through xmas.I guess my boys give me the strength to carry on,they were so looking forward to a new baby. Anyway im sorry for rambling on + i wish you all the best,your little baby is in my prayers + when you need to talk im here,it helps to release your feelings even if it is just typeing them out to a stranger,now a friend, love Cathy + Angel Kirsty xxxxx

Cathy Mum Of Kirsty Porter

September 19, 2009

I am so sorry for your loss my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.xxxxxxxxxxxx

Rena Travis

August 7, 2009