i have been on here for nearly 2 years now so my friends all know me please tell me if i am wrong about been so upset that a family member told me yesterday that i should get on with it cos thats life eh after my daughter got killed the way she did i am screaming still inside me for her everyday all on my own i did not sleep much cos this upset me so much last night and i cant sleep tonight either why cant they understand should i have moved further on by now janet got killed 26th august 2009 please help im at my wits end trying to cope on my own xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Francis I too have been told to "get over it and move on" and I also was so upset I didn't talk to the person for 5 months - family member, yeah pretty childish of me BUT very insensitive of them. There is no time limit and we will never get over it. Some days may not be as bad as others but as a memory of our loved one floats thru our mind it can make us smle or dissolve us into tears and sadness. It may be"X" years for them but it still feels like yesterday to us. With my "family member" yeah I talk to them now but I know that is one more person I can no longer be myself with them or show my true feelings and really they are the ones that should feel bad because we need them and they have let us down by their "wisdom". It has been 29 1/2 months for me and I believe I will never get "over it" I was suppose to die first so any day I am on this earth with out my son I will be sad, yes I will get thru the day some how, as evidently you don't physically die from a broken heart (just feels like it).
Frances I am so sorry this person has been so insensitive, its hard enough to endure losing some one you loved so much but then when our so called friends let us down they make us feel even more alone. . Hugs to you and your Angels.
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Dear Frances - You are so sweet, and so nice. I hate to see you upset. I don't believe you are wrong. I'm sorry for what your family member has said. All I can think of, is they must not have lost a child. I'm really sorry you are hurt, but I would feel the same if that happened to me.
I'm going to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. August of 2009 is still pretty recent to me. I wouldn't let it bother you. Keep your chin up.
Love Vicki
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hi frances love iam so sorry for what your family members said to you,but its your choice my son died 2006 and i still come on here its hard maybe they cant understand but gts help with some many wonderfull people on here,to help you thinking of you xxx
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HI FRANCES THE FAMILY THAT HAVE SAID THAT TO YOU ARE SO CRUEL AND NASTY IF SOMEONE SAID THAT TO ME I DONT THINK I COULD EVER FORGIVE THEM THINKING OF YOU LOVE AND HUGS VALXXX
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hi frances dont pay any attention to this person my son is dead 7years and nobody will tell me what i should be doing or what i should be feeling he was 27 when he died but he was and still is my baby i carry him in my heart people are fond of giving advice on things they know nothing about nobody expects to bury their child and it is the hardest thing you will ever have to do you have your good days and your bad days and every year you have to get through all the normal things like birthdays xmas but we also have to get through anniversaries i always say walk in my shoes for a day and see how smart you are at giving out advice you just forget what this person said its them i feel sorry for because they have no idea
you look after yourself and dont let this drag you down you have enough to put up with just getting through each and every day god bless you and sending you lots of hugs take care xxx
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Thank you so much my lovely gts friends for your kind words we have some lovely kind people on gts and i am so proud and privelidged to have you all as my friends love and hugs to you all and all your angels as always frances xxxx
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Please take care of yourself Francis. These people are so wrong. They can't ever get into your broken heart and mend what is broken.Grief is personal and nobody should ever intrude on your private thoughts. I have you in my thoughts,xxxx
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HI FRANCES PEOPLE SHOULD,NT GIVE THERE OPINIONS ESPECIALLY IF THEY AINT LOST A CHILD ITS ONE THING YOU NEVER GET OVER, A CHILD SHOULD NEVER GO BEFORE THERE PARENTS, AND IT IS HARD ITS SOMETHING YOU WILL NEVER GET OVER MY DAUGHTER,S BEEN GONE NOW 7 YRS JUST OVER AND I WILL NEVER GET OVER IT KEEP YOUR CHIN UP FRANCES, SENDING YOU LOADS OF LOVE ALWAYS TRACEY XXXXXXXX
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I too had this said to me just one year after losing Robert, and was said by a family member wich i think hurts more than if it had been anybody else, it still hurts that he said that to me, I havent spoken to him since !. xxx
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I too had this said to me just one year after losing Robert, and was said by a family member wich i think hurts more than if it had been anybody else, it still hurts that he said that to me, I havent spoken to him since !. xxx
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