l have just had a phone call about my daughters inquest and l cannot stop shaking and l feel really sick,its like its happening all over again,it is on the 14 october and l am dreading it cause then l will find out how my daughter died,l feel so upset,has anyone been to an inquest as lve never been to one before,what do l expect,l am so scared, love to all and there angels sandy xxx
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RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Hi Sandy,
I am sorry I can't help you with what to expect from the inquest hunny. But I am sending you lots of love. Have a drink hunny help you with your emotions a strong cup of tea with some sugar.
P.M me if you need to hun.
Xxxx
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Hi Sandy, i have never been to one , but letting you know you are in my thoughts and prayers,sending you lots of love and higs xx
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Hi Sandy ,never been to one hun, but i will be thinking about you on the day .You are bound to be feeling like you are ,please know that I am here if you need to talk love n hugs Shirley xx
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Hi Sandy
I had to go to an inquest into my little girls passing but having spoken to a friend who went to her brothers (under completely different circumstances) they were very different so I don't know if what I tell you will be the same for you.
Alicia was found to have died of an enlarged heart and needed an inquest because up until 12 hours before she died she appeared to be completely healthy. Basically we were called into a room which I think was part of Lincoln's registry office. There was just us, the coroner, his officer and a couple of reporters sat at the back. He read through the post mortem findings (she caught an aggressive virus) and declared her death as natural causes. We were only in there for 15 minutes at the most. I wont lie to you hun it was horrendous hearing my baby spoken about as deceased and I cried buckets but afterwards I felt relieved that it was finally over and we had our answers.
As I have said though different inquests are different so this may not have helped you at all but wanted to let you know how it was for us and tell you that I will be thinking of you
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
dsorry i cant help but sending lots of huggs and love xxxxxxxx
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Hi Sandy I went to an inquest for my son who took his own life.It wasn't as bad as I expected they just give you the facts and don't mention who is to blame.It is to find out the cause of death. I was dissapointed as I wanted some justice because the police were supposed to section him on instructions from his GP.Again the system let us down. Take care love Barbara x
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Hi Sandy - please don't worry as it is not nearly as bad as you imagine and Coroners are very sensitive to the family's grief. At Rachel's inquest, the Coroner had considered all the evidence on paper, and the hearing itself was very short, about 10-15 minutes. The Coroner's Officer was so helpful and supportive so I suggest you speak to them and ask anything you need. Also, you can go and look at the Coroners file if you apply to do so and they give permission (only people with a legitimate interest are allowed) I found it helpful to do this before the Inquest, but Rachel's dad went afterwards because he couldn't cope with it earlier. Please send me a message if there is anything specific you want to know. Thinking of you, love Sue x
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Hello Sandy. I went to my son's inquest.
My husband, Kevin,s brother and I were led into this big room together with 2 friends. In the room was a policeman and a journalist.
The coronor walked in and talked.
I found him a very sympathetic men who spoke with understanding and feeling. The policeman read out his statement and the coronor gave his verdict. We were then led into another room where the police was open to answer any questions we had. Then we went home, utterly deflated. I went with mixed feelings. I was hoping that the police had gathered some more information. The verdict meant for me that the police had given up with finding evidence in Kevin's case. I also somehow expected the coroner to fix everything and once the verdict was spoken everything would be back to normal and Kevin would be with us again.
Dear Sandy. Hope this helps. I am sending you a lot of strenght to get you through the day and the time leading up to it.
RE: my daughters inquest [kara worthington]
Dear Sandra
I am the closest living relative for my daughter, Rebecca, who died on 28th January this year. The Coroner was incredibly helpful and sympathetic to me - Becca killed herself - and actually helped me with the complaints I had against the Police who were supposedly investigating the case. He made them see me and started the complaints system rolling, made them give me her phone that they were withholding and showed me her file. He let me take photos with me when I looked at the file as I said I wanted him to see her as a real person and I think this really affected him as he told me he had a daughter of roughly the same age. I typed up transcripts of the phone texts when she died and did copies for him and the witnesses at the Inquest as the Police should have done this and didn't and this helped me and the Coroner put me down as a material witness so that I could ask questions of each witness as well. After the Inquest, which was traumatic but also a bit of an anti-climax, he sent me a CD of this at my request but to date, I haven't been able to listen to it.
I hope this is helpful. If you want to know any more information, please let me know.
Take care xx
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