I like many others chose to let my pet be put to sleep, I found this so hard to do and come to terms with, I still feel much guilt for doing this almost 2 years after I let my Cat Ollie Dude go.
Do others here who have been faced with this dilemma feel the same or is it just myself, I know in my heart I did what I did to stop my pet from unnecessary suffering but still it doesnt stop me feeling guilty, I hated having to do as I did, and I feel as if the guilt will never leave me,is this a natural reaction , or am I being over sensitive. I wish I knew. Any advice welcomed.
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i had to make an awful choice for my special baby abbey, she was only 13 months old and had her whole life ahead of her. she had major spinal malformations and surgery was an option but with a poor prognosis and the thought of putting her through such fear and pain and then the surgery fail was heartbreaking but the alternative broke my heart into a thousand pieces!
I held her in my arms in my living room while the vet put her to sleep, it is without doubt the most devastating thing i have ever been through and i still cry for her everyday...i also wonder everyday what if??? Should i of tried the surgery? she may be her with me now? i should of given her that one chance she had?
I loved her like a baby and the guilt will never leave me...she was so very young and i feel now that i made the wrong choice for my special girl...i love you so much abbey and miss your gorgeous smile every single day xxx
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Hi MariaAnne I think everyone would agree the guilt we feel doesn't really go away although we know that the right choice for your particular pet was the right one. It has been two years since Pepe died and almost four years since Ben. Mum and myself still have not got over the guilt.
It has only been since I have been on gonetoosoon that I am able to except that I had made the right decision. Talk about Olie Dude think of the good times talk about them. I find that it's helping me talking about Pepe, Ben and Jinks who are missed so very much.
Mandy I am so sorry for your loss if you want to talk I'm here.
MariaAnne, no you're not being oversensitive, I hated making that desision myself it's not a nice desision to make. Don't feel guilty you did the best you could for a pet you loved very much.
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i had to have my dog put to sleep as she had cancer and the vet couldnt do anything for her i was devestated for weeks but she wasnt suffering anymore she was free from pain and because i loved her so much i knew i had done the right thing i had to do the same for my cat merson 3 years ago its heartbreaking but he was so ill ive just added 4 of my pets to the gone to soon site tia lara merson and perno x
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I had to make the decision to put Treena to sleep last November, and it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I feel guilty every day but knowing I chose to do the right thing helps. (not a lot but a little) She was my best friend and I still come in from work expecting her to be sitting on the stairs waiting for me. I know it doesnt help but it makes me feel better knowing that Treena is not suffering anymore. She will always be in my heart!! x
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I felt the World collapse around me as my Jake blew out his final breath and still feel guilty that I may have took him a day,week or month sooner than really necessary.
But if I was in his position I'd be asking someone to help me out
Miss you Jake like you wouldn't believe x x x x
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I feel exactly the same way,having put Beth to sleep last week-end,the thing is they can't tell us how they feel,we have that special bonding with our pets,and we instinctively know when we have to do it,I feel that our pets have been brought into our lives for a reason, and someday we will meet again.Nothing can take away the heartache,just remember the funny times you had together,and feel privileged to have been part of thier lives XX
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If it should be that I grow weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep
Then you must do what must be done
For this last battle can't be won
You will be sad,I understand
Don't let your grief then stay your hand
For this day more than all the rest
Your love for me must stand the test
We've had so many happy years
What is to come can hold no fears
You'd not want me to suffer so
The time has come please let me go
I know in time that you will see
The kindness that you did for me
Although my tail it's last has waved
From pain & suffering I've been saved
Please do not grieve it must be you
Who has this painful thing to do
We've been so close, we two these years
Don't let your heart hold back the tears Anon
My vets sent this in a card after I had to let my Diesel Dog go off to sleep . He went so peacefully in my arms and yes it hurts so much, but if I had a choice in which way I could die I would go as Diesel did . God bless everyone who has had to do this for their best friend . XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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i just had to put my cat poppy to sleep on monday(1st june) i feel guilty now but im hopeing that in time...i will see that there was no way i would have wanted it any other way...i could not have sat back and let my cat,my beautiful friend who had loved me unconditionally,suffer any more than she did.Its only wot she deserved.I have seen another much loved pet die in the past,without such assistance...and beleive me it is nowhere near as peaceful or as dignified...stop beating yourself up,u did wot every loving person should do
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who am i to say when my pet should die? thats the biggest hurdle ive had to face in my life the most heartbreaking choice ever.all i kept asking myself in those first weeks was IF, but to see your loved ons suffering is also painful so perhaps its just a process we have to go through to grieve properly. its been 6 weeks since we lost cracker and i still ask the questions but i now know some of the answers its because we loved him so much that we let him go to run free from pain in doggy heaven with so many of your wonderfil pets that have gone before him to show him the way. this gives me great comfort and for that i thank all.
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