we very recently had to have our beloved dog cracker put to sleep. my question is how can i help my husband with his grief over losing his best friend? ive been with him since i was sixteen (im now 35!) and in all that time i have NEVER seen him cry. i have found this website very comforting but he doesnt go in for all that. im not sure if he blames me because i was the one that made the appointment at the vets.
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RE: how can i help him with his grief?
Aww love i'm sure that your husband does not blame you coz you made the appointment for your beloved dog,i'm sure that you have done the right thing for you would not want your beloved dog to suffer or be in any pain hun.I hope that you and your husband will be ok hun,i have done a little poem for you mind you i have found it a bit spooky coz i just made it up in the poem thread now and when i finished it i came straight on this thread. Take care Paula,love Jackie xx
MY LITTLE DOG
I LOVED MY LITTLE DOG HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND
WE WENT EVERYWHERE TOGETHER
RIGHT UNTIL THE END
HE USED TO FOLLOW ME AROUND THE HOUSE
HE WOULD NOT HURT A FLY OR NOT EVEN CHASE A MOUSE
HE HAD HIS LITTLE BOWL TO DRINK HIS WATER
HE LOVED TO PLAY WITH MY DAUGHTER
I TOOK HIM FOR WALKS DOWN TO THE PARK
HE WAS SUCH A GOOD DOG FOR HE WOULD NEVER BARK
I'D THROW SOME STICKS FOR HIM TO RUN
ME AND MY DOG ALWAYS HAD FUN
MY LITTLE DOG HAD A PET FRIEND WHO PASSED AWAY AND WAS ONLY SEVEN
NOW THEY ARE BOTH HAPPY IN DOGGY HEAVEN.
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RE: how can i help him with his grief?
Hi Paula
I have found myself in this same situation just this week - On Tuesday I had to make the choice to put my husbands dog Diesel to sleep he wouldn't make the choice and left it to me as a nurse to decide.
The hardest part was the deciding what to do once I made the choice I new i had done the right thing.
I stayed with Diesel whilst he was put to sleep and it was so peaceful & he really did just go to sleep .
We burried him in a quite spot by his favorite woods, with his toys & blanket.
My husband cried more than I've ever seen which in itself is upsetting but now we talk about Diesel we go to see his grave and I encourage my husband to tell Diesel about his day and what his plans are . This seems to have helped with his grief.
I have to agree with you that this site is a wonderful idea.
Hope this is of some help.
Dee
RE: how can i help him with his grief?
on monday i had to put my cat 2 sleep,my boyfriend didnt come with me,becoz he went in2 denial and thought she would be coming back even tho i told him that it didnt seem likely....now he is consumed with guilt and misses her so bad...i told him that poppy loved him and she knew that he loved her. We r having her cremated and her ashes will be coming back home soon where she belongs...i just hope that this will make him feel better...becoz he really shouldnt beat himself up so bad...she had had a long happy spoilt life and poppy knew that we both adored her
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