ive been told that time heals,for me time just stands still,my wife sam got diagnosed with stomach cancer on 28th dec 2008,she sadly passed away just 4 short weeks later,she was 36 yrs old,im 35&we have 2 beautiful girls,who are 13&11,if anything it gets harder&harder,we miss her so much,i feel so helpless at times,i wish i could wave a magic wand&make everything ok,lauren was 13 last week&the only thing she wanted was to just see her mummy 1 last time&i couldnt help her.i cry justabout everyday,i just feel numb&pointless,everythings so surreal.i just cant think about not having my sam next to me ever again,it just wont sink in.we love&miss her so so much
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i feel so upset for you Richard,i dont have the reasons,im in the same pain as you.they say time is a healer and we learn to live with it.You are making your wife very proud bringing up the girls xxx
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aw richard my heart goes out to you and your loving family and i know your wife will be with you and the girls all the time and watching over you all your wife will be very proud of you for the way you are bringing up the kids and im sure the 2 kids love there daddy very much just for you being there wonderful daddy love always christine xxxxxxxx
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sending my love to you and you two girls iam sure your wife is with you all the time i know that doesnt help much so sorry for your loss take care love tracy x
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richard nobody has the answers im afraid i know exactly how you feel my darling bill passed away in feb 09 its now 18 weeks and it is still so raw and painful.my dad said that us as human beings must be made to be strong to have to go through tragic times like this. i know sam will be so proud of you and your special girls. be strong. every one says time is a healer i think the pain will never go but hopefully we learn to cope with it a bit better. dont try to stop your grieving if you need to cry do so there are so many emotions that i am still going through. take care and try to think of the happy and special times you and sam had together, it is what keeps me going. thinking of you jayne xx
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Hi Richard,
I lost my wife 2 years ago on the 18 of this month,she was 53, sorry to say in my experience it does not get any easier. I have 3 kids all with families of thier own, so I spend a lot of nightime on my own, this is when it really hurts, time to think and remember. The people who tell you it gets easier probably have not had any experience of a similar loss to ours.
Best regards
Adam
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Richard i am so sorry to hear of your loss, my heart goes out to you and your girls. I lost my husband suddenly in feb 2003 when he was 32 and i had 2 small boys aged 5 and 8. The pain never goes away but you learn to manage it. Take strength from your children and make your wife proud of you and your girls. She will always be watching over you making sure you are all safe. My two boys are now 14 and just turned 12 and i know their dad would be sooo proud of them, if i've done it this far then i know you can do it too. God bless you all, kelly x
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Hello
Sorry to hear about your loss. Yes time seems to stand still and part of us dies when we lose a loved one. We all react differently and there is no magic wand to heal us. All I know is that we will always live with a scar, with time people will forget about your scar but you'll know it's there and you'll live with it, it is part of you. One day at a time, your angel wife will be watching over you and will help you in your journey. Take care and keep well for your beautiful daghters
Life Beyond
Care for your loved one as you always have
Let them go, but not completely.
Hold onto them, but not too tightly.
Love them as you know you will..as you always have
Rejoice that they are well, the only difference
now is that you cannot see them.
But you feel them still
and they will always be with you.
The spirit does not die as the body dies
and Love is of the spirit.
Nothing you have experienced together
can be taken from you
and your loved one shall be eternally yours
in that love.
Weep not too long, that they may also cry.
But rejoice in their life and in yours also.
Let yours continue to be a celebration of all life
of your shared love....
knowing that God holds you both
in the palm of his hand
and in loving you both, shall reunite you.
Blessings
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