Hi
My Name is Lucy Smith my fiancee commited suicide on the 4th October 2008 aged 31, I am lost without him I don't know what to do or how to cope.
His families way of coping is to blame me and ban me from seeing him in the funeral directos and going to funeral even though he had only spoken to his mum in the 4 years we were together.
How do I go on without him
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
you will find the strength in the knowledge that he loved you you can cope. in times like this it is easier to blame others that way you dont get to feel guilty about things you cant change go to the funeral directer and explain im sure they will help talk to your fiancee he is around and will help you through this as he would not want to see you hurting sending you healing thoughts xxxsarah xxx
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
Dear Lucy,
I am so sorry, I know how you feel, my Partner died 16 months ago, and I still feel the same as you, all I have been told is it get's easier with time! I'm so sorry for your problems, families need to stay together at times like this, stay strong, and like Sarah says speak to the funeral directors, I'm not sure if they can turn anyone away and stop you from seeing your fiance, you have nothing to loose by askng, thinking of you, take good care of yourself xx
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
the funeral directors are open to everyone if its an open coffin you can go in any time that it is funeral place is open
i would also go to the funeral he loved you and you love him and no one can take that away from you.
my church is on tonight i will also put you in the healing book and send absent healing your way xxxx
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
So sorry for your loss Lucy, I know how it feels. I lost my partner almost 15 months ago. Mary is absolutely right, everyone is going to tell you it'll get better with time. This doesn't apply to everyone. I'm still as devastated today as I was the day I lost him. If you feel you can talk about it in any way, I would advise you do to someone you know and trust. It doesn't work for everyone, but it's worth a shot. Unfortunately there is no textbook on how to grieve, because everyone is different. Take each day as it comes and hopefully you'll feel better soon xxxx
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
so sorry for your loss lucy,i lost my beloved partner in april of this year and feel exactly the way you do,so cannot offer any advice just wanted you to know my thoughts are with you xx
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
so sorry for your loss,i lost my husband 10 years ago.i still miss him now.you have just as much right to go funeral,after all its you he loved and you he stayed with,GO and hold your head up high.my thoughts are with you.xx
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
Hi Lucy so sorry for your loss, I lost my wife Angie in April 2008 and miss her terribly and as Jean said you have every right to go to his funeral. You will be in my prayers
trevor
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
Lucy you shouldn't be getting the blame for this.You should be able to go to the funeral parlour and funeral if you wish.I would go if i was you x
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
Lucy darlin you stay strong, you pray and you keep living your life. I am sorry that you have to experience this pain in your life. I know myself all to real how much suicide hurts those of us left here to survive. Youfind help if you need it. You talk about it no matter what. You continue taking it minute by minute untill eventually you are taking it year by year. I am praying that your fiance comforts you as your angel above watching over you. God Rest his soul. I will pray that God finds a way to give you some comfory and peace in the days ahead. Feel free to message me anytime you want. You will have lots of setbacks, you will survive. You must in this time of your pain. No one on this earth should ever have to endure this awful, devastating pain, but we do for whatever reason. I am so sorry.
RE: Lost, confused, Devasted and so lonely
Hi there hun i know how you feel when my parter Terry died I got shut out of the family. I know what you mean about blame when i found Terry dead in the toilet and i though i could save him but i couldn't. I am not allowed to see his children because the mother said that i took there dad from them but it wasn't true as she called Terry a losser and a waste of space and the kids would do better without him. I treated Terry's kids like me own. I had to walk alone with all his friends and and family abanded me. I know it's tough girl but he would want you to be sad he want you to carry on with your life. I haven't had a relationship since Terry died its hard but i get by. I messed up my studys last year but iv'e restart them again so i get out the house as if i didn't my mental state would get worse. Girly your in my thoughs bbe your not alone.
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