I lost my 29yr old boyfriend suddenly last november,he collasped while warmin up for a football match.Although we'd only been together 10mth we both felt that we had found our soul mate an felt liked we'd been together much longer, this year we had so many things planned,our first holiday abroad,possibly moving in together an even touched on talkin about having a child together.I envisioned spendin the rest of my life with this man an then it was snatched away from me without a moments notice.At the beginning I kept myself busyhelpin to arrange the funeral then it was xmas and now Im back at work an I feel like Im supposed to get on with my life now Im supposed to have done my grieving,People keep tellin me how strong I am and how well Iv dealt with it all,but inside I feel like Im fallin apart and all I wanna do is scream an shout an tell everybody how unfair I think life is.I just want him bk,People tell me times a healer,well I disagree,I think you just learn to live wiv the pain,cos Its bin nearly 2mths an it seems to be gettin harder not easier,I seem to miss him more each day.
RE: Is time really a healer???...
Hi Rachel, time is what it takes everyone greaves differently and some never stop greaving they do just learn to live with it. People often don't know how to handle another person's loss and sometimes we can feel we 'should' get over it because we feel thier discomfort. My boyfriend of 17 years died in october and I have days when I sometimes feel worse but I get through them and allowing my family and friend to help and being allowed to grieve in my own way gives me the stregnth I need to go on. Smile sweetly at your well wishes, they do mean well, and grieve in the way that is best for you and for as long as it takes.
Kathy.x
RE: Is time really a healer???...
hi there rachael how are you today well i lost my husband 5 yrs ago time does help u never forget them it just helps you deal with it a bit better xxmaureen
RE: Is time really a healer???...
no im sorry to say...time is not a healer...you just learn to live with it and gradually with lack of not seeing someone you just get used to it xxx.
RE: Is time really a healer???...
Well Iv had the birthday an the one year anniversary,an I have to agree time is not really a healer I think you just learn to live with the loss.An it's that.that gets easier,I don't know about anybody else but I now find myself fighting my guilt about moving on an meeting someone else,is it too soon,will chris approve of the new man,what will his family thin??? Etc etc...xx
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