well its fathers day on sunday&my girls want to take me out for dinner,problem is its alsomy wedding anniversary on the same day,its so hard,imlike being 2 people,does that sound strange?also ivebeen pursuaded to take the girls away 4 a week in august,but is it normal to feel guilty about doing that,i think to myself that i shouldnt be going&having fun,i feel as though i have no right to,i feel so guilty,does this make anysense
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RE: harder&harder
My condolences Richard...
I think, that if I were no longer around, I'd be terribly distressed if my husband couldn't still take enjoyment from our children... I don't think it's a matter of 'having fun' in any inappropriate way - it's just a matter of still being Dad...
Your wife and you created your girls and you will both always be a part of them... They are the product of your love... Even in the depths of your grief of course you can enjoy them...
And they undoubtedly need you too...
Children rally amazingly... Since my son died the rest of my gang have tried so hard to do something each day to put a smile on my face... I cry and they understand why... But they also need me to find something in them or their actions that still lights me up a little...
And heck, if you have a bit of a meltdown in the restaurant or the car or walking along the pavement - who cares? You'll have your girls with you...
I hope you have a lovely meal and holiday to come...
RE: harder&harder
Richard hun ,i,m so sorry for your loss but Sam would want you to get on with your life and enjoy it with your girls,it will be a sad day no doubt about it ,but in heaven there is only love and happiness and i know Sam will be with you and sending her love to you all, sending you hugs ,Linda x
RE: harder&harder
Hi Richard
I know what you are going through, it is my wifes 2nd anniversary today, without my kids I don't know what I would have done, especially my daughter who is the oldest of the three. We all feel guilt about the death of a loved one, why her is always in my mind. I am sure your wife would want you to have a life after she has gone, and the love of your children will help you through. Have an nice meal and enjoy your holiday.
Adam
RE: harder&harder
hi richard please try not to feel guilty i know its easier said than done. me and my bill got married on my birthday im dreading it but know bill will be with me. sam would want you to try and enjoy life for you your girls and for her. it is so unfair and cruel but we must try to carry on. i sometimes feel guilty going food shopping which some people will think is really silly but to me it is a big thing. we all go through so many different emotions and no-body knows what is like until they are in this unbearable situation. please take care and try to enjoy sunday xxx
RE: harder&harder
richard i am so sorry for your loss....i also lost my fiancee 9 weeks ago now,and we have a little girl,but i no how much he adored her,and she him.And i no it would break his heart if i felt guilty every time we went out or had any fun together ...he would never want his death to be the cause of me neglecting my duties as a parent to our gorgeous little girl.He is always with us where ever we go,we talk about him all the time,that way he lives on with us,everytime we go anywere we discuss weather he would of liked the day,or what he would of enjoyed about it........your children have a part of your wife living on in them ,so she will always be with you all......enjoy your children,because your wife will be looking down on you all,and think of how happy she would be to see that your all happy....and your being a great dad xxxx
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