My husband Dave died suddenly on 1 Apr. He was 29 and I am 26. We have no children. I have lots of family and friends and yet I am so lonely. I do not know anyone who has been through what I am going through or have lost anyone close. While I am close to my mother-in-law she is grieving for a son and not a partner. How can the pain get better over time when the longer I am parted from him, the more I miss him?
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Ah Lisa hun i,m so sorry for your loss 29 is no age ,of course you feel lonely,my partner passed 5yrs ago and even though he was in hospital for 2mths he was still around but when he died i,didn,t want to be indoors and then when i went out i wanted to be at home ,your emotions will be all over the place,it,s a strange feeling when you,ve shared a home the place is so empty ,i like you did,nt have children but i still know how you feel.My partners mum lost her daughter and her son within 8mths ,all you can do is take each day as it comes some will be better than others but you will probably keep going round in circles for a time ,but i wish you the strength to get through this Lisa god bless x
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hi im so sorry i lost my darling husband 12 weeks ago. there is no answers im afraid. you go through so many emotions and at times think you are losing the plot dont hold back you emotions it still hurts so much i didnt realise you could miss someone so much. ive lost close grandparents but this is so different you will feel sad lonely angry guilty and many more just take each day at a . i know i will never get over this but hope that in time i will learn to cope with it better. stay strong and take care love Jayne xxx
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I understand that feeling my love. my mom (mother-in- law0 is dealing with her grief of lossing her son. But sometime we get together and just cry and talk. she has helped me and been there for me. i am blessed to have her and dad in my life. they have helped me and i have helped them. I am dealing with mine and our two boys. I am so sorry that you lost your love. I understand that because i am 35 and my husband was 38. I am still riding the coaster and someday are better than others but I try to remember the love that we have. I belivie that even in death love cant be seperated. I would love to take that away from all of us. We I know that each of have our loved ones as Angels. my heart is with you. peace and light be with you and your loved always. take care love.oxoxoxoxo
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My wonderful husband passed away five years ago, we were married for 20 years. I am not gotting to say your pain will go away, or say it gets any easier. But I will talk about how to cope, which you will. He is with you and will guide you, if only you will give yourself the time to grieve. Just get through one hour or one mniute. think of what he would like you to do. If you have a hour where all you do is cry thats OK. It does not really matter, its only an hour. Slowly you will be able to get through an hour.
Use your friends, and strangers it is sometimes easier to talk to a stranger as you do not have to think about their grief. Thinking of you be stong you can do this. another widow x
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i lost my husband 11 months ago the pain doesnt go away they say it gets easier will hve to wait on that its helped that ive got 3 boys 21, 18, 13 but i feel my life has ended and iam only 40 and i keep busy with work and my family but my days are full and the nights are empty and lonely i go to councilling and if u have a good family and friends talk to them they will be there when u need them to talk or cry take care x
RE: Alone
hi...like u have no kids
lost my dearly beloved husband 17th february 2009 and am inconsoleable.
mark's parents had both passed away so i have his siters to grieve with but they have their own families...they do help me in lots of ways but i know that ultimately i have to live thru this road of misery.
i cannot get myself to live at our home....too too painful...am staying with my parents.
by time we learn to live thru it...by time.
i can empathise annalise
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