To all of you in this group, my sincere empathy. I do understand. Yes it does get more tolerable, but this is one loss we never "get over."
How can the world keep on spinning when we are at a stand still. How could we ever have known how important one date in our lives would become? My life is divided in two parts, pre March 11th 2001 and post March 11th 2001. I remember when it had been six months and I saw a post from a woman in a group I was in that said she was going on 10 years. I thought to myself, ten years. I will never make it ten years and here i am, going on 10 years. Thinking of you all
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RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
I was driving with my mom, sister-in-law and nieces; during the discussion, my mother remarked that there was an even numer of grandsons as granddaughters now that the new baby had arrived; and as she named them off, she never mentioned my Sarah at all (!!!!!) I just couldn't believe it; I sat in the back seat and cried. It's been 3 years, 8 months and 15 days since a car accident took her from me and to have her ignored is so unbelievable. Joanne, I talk about Sarah all the time, as if she's still physically with me (because she'll aways be with me) and I just don't care if it makes anyone uncomfortable. I've long since decided it's more important to me to keep her part of my life than worrying about how anyone else feels. If they don't like it, don't invite me! Sending us all warm cyber-hugs. May these days pass gently for us all.
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
I think the world (our family and friends) feel if they mention our child's name we will suddenly remember and cry. They do not realize we always remember our child and the tears isn't because we suddenly are reminded its because we will always miss them. I want to talk about my James and if it wasn't so awfully sad it would be funny because I know the topic will be changed the minute I mention his name. Hugs.
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
My x hubands family could not even bring flowers to our sons grave and its only been three years,( i,m Barbara can,t get in under my old name so thank you Bill,)Mikhails mum,
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
I have to agree with all of you on here it doesn't go away and life isn't the same anymore! I have changed since my son died and i also lost my fear of death completely! It hasn't got any easier in my case but i don't find that it got any harder either!! I have been told by people that eventually i will get over it ....but guess what it has been over three years now and it still hurts and the people who told me ...well they havn't lost a child! I tend to ignore comments like that now because they don't know what i have been through and what i am still going through. My heart goes out to all the parents who have lost a child!!! xxxx
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
It is six months today since my Son Michael Died!A date i will never forget,I read al your words and understand how difficult it is to look forward
when every minute of every day you think about the loved one who passed away,I still feel him here with his family where He belongs,I Can't let him go.Take Care Everyone Pat
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
I never thought I would be able to cope and live my life after the loss of a child, But On June 12th 2009 we lost our little man after going into premature labour at 28week. He held on for 12 precious days, but could not hold on any longer. When I was told that he had died my heart broke and I don't think it will ever be whole again, And didn't think I would be able to carry on and live my life, but every day gets alittle easier and although my pain is still as raw as it was on that day when he was taken away. I no I have to go on and smile and rememeber my little boy and the time we shared together. But somedays I feel guilty, Somedays I just cry and somedays I just want to curl up and die. My pain will never fade but I no I have to carry on if not only to tell off the little man we lost and love so muched.
My advice to those that av lost there child is hold on to the people that are close to you they are feelin it too, the loss of a child affects everyone around you and we need to take comfort from those that we love. And althogh your pain will never fade and you will still have your bad days in time it will get easier to think of the one you lost and smile. For it is better to remember what time you had, instead of what time you will never have.
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
My oldest son Jay, was 18 when he took his place in Heaven. He was in a car accident on his way home from a friends grandparents 50th wedding anniversary in Elfrida AZ. The brakes failed on the car he was in, my son was seated directly behind the driver. They missed a stop sign and went right into oncoming traffic on highway 191. The full sized truck that hit them never had a chance to use his brakes. My son was the only person killed instantly. There were several friends of his in the vehicle, including an infant in a car seat. 2 of his friends were ejected from the car, and the driver had to be extacated with the "jaws of life". The drivers mother and boyfriend were following behind and saw the entire accident. I was notified from their family before the DPS officer came to confirm my sons death. My world stopped that day. It has been almost 5 years and it still hurts like yesterday. I hate it when people who have NO IDEA what I am going through, tell ME how I should feel. I avoid most of my family functions because being around my family seems to remind me more that MY SON is missing. Most of his friends have gotten married and started families, and I sometimes catch myself becoming angry because I feel like they dont even remember my son. I want the world to know he existed and that the world lost a wonderful man. Sometimes I feel like I cant take it anymore, and I just want to be with my son, I know suicide is against the rules so I often wish my time would come just so I can hold my baby again. How dare someone who has never lost a child tell me how I should feel!
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...Not able to say much. Told I need to!! ..I too feel that Life Is A Prision!!..With NO RELEASE DATE!!... 2 MONTHS IN...INTO MY LIFE SENTENCE!!
BRENDA RENFROE
WILLIAM R.T. EDWARDS' MOM
TUCSON,ARIZONA-USA
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
Brenda so very sorry for your lost. When you are able to talk, you will find so many kind and wonderful people here. Hugs
RE: Who said "Time heals all wounds." never lost a child
i lost my son harry 10 months ago to lung cancer. he was 47 years old he lived with us as he wasnt married but he was still my child and my heart is broken.i cant sleep and i dread getting out of bed in the mornings he was so good and so funny it is as if all the laughter has disappeared from my life i thought i was going mad because everyone was telling me to try and get on with my life but how could i when i was dying inside myself and the pain is unbearable i have found some comfort in your letters to know how you feel not that i would want anyone to feel like this but to know when you love someone you love so much you hurt so much when you lose them. god bess all of you
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