i lost my baby boy Harry 6 weeks ago and want to have another baby as soon as possible. it is not to replace Harry because it never would! i think if i leave it too long then im worried i would be too scared it will happen again.
im not rushing into it because i want a baby so so bad
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RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
Hilary, i think firstly you need to relax hun, i am so sorry that you lost Harry but in order to have another baby you need to relax i can sense your panic in those words.
i have just found out that i am expecting my first baby since losing my daughter in 2007, it is a very scary feeling of having another child after losing one.
i think that you shouldn't necessarly try to have another just yet, give yourself time to grieve for Harry because if you don't i think the grief will hit you at a point where you should be enjoying time with a new baby, of course Harry will always be in your heart and head though. when you are ready to deal with it, a new baby will come, just relax!!
You are welcome to message me anytime for a chat.
All my love Kate.
Good luck whatever you decide to do.xxxxx
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
i say go for it but make sure its the right time to do so . good luck. i lost my boy he was 16 week old and caught on ten days after his death. im having a little girl now. i dont no why people seem to think u only do it to replace the one u lost its so not true. my little boy is with me every day in our hearts and always will be. good luck hunn its your dissision bugger what anyone else thinks. x if its ment to happen it willx
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
thanks guys. how far are you both i hope evrything goes well. how long did u wait nicola?
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
i don't know how far yet, i only found out on Wednesday and have a scan booked for Tuesday next week.xxxxx
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
hi im 29 weeks today. my kye died 4th december and according to my dates i must have caught on round bout 14th december. I spoke with doctors and oncologist whilst kye was poorly and they basicly said try as soon as possible. i didnt want to try again untill i new kye wasnt gunna be here with us as he was very sick and would have needed all my attention so when he passed away i tryed then i felt lucky to be able to do that and soon kye will have a baby sisster. x
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
I fell pregnant 2 months after losing my daughter (stillborn at fullterm). I had to concentrate on being pregnant again so soon and all the fears that were going through my head. I didn't even tell anyone I was pregnant until I was 5 and a half months gone as I couldn't bring myself to talk about it. I think I was in denial and tried to pretend it wasn't happening. The downside of this was I never gave myself time to grieve for Ciara. My son was born ok, but died 15 months later, and after losing two children so close together, the grief was enormous.
It's only now 10 and 11 years later that I felt strong enough to set up memorials to them on here and I feel I am finally grieving for my daughter. Because my son lived, we had lots of happy memories of him, but I only had sad memories of Ciara's birth knowing she was dead already. It's so hard, but if you don't deal with grief properly it will hit you when you least expect it. Everyone is different, but I wish I had had some counselling at the time. I had to deal with it all by myself and found people just avoided me because they didn't know what to say. I can honestly say losing her, was the lonliest time of my life, but I have survived with the love and support of my husband and we have gone on to adopt two beautiful daughters since then.
Only you know what's best for you, but I wish you all the best whatever you decide XX
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
Hi Hilary,
I am so sorry to hear that you lost Harry. I personally lost a child with my ex partner he was 1 and half days old bless him. But then we decided we wanted another baby this wasnt to replace Luke (my lil angel) at all as I knew nobody could replace him.
I then decided to wait a while to be able to come to terms with the loss of luke and we waited 1 year before we started trying again to find out 2 months later we was expecting a little boy.
But it does pay to wait around a year or more id say. I was as scared as any other parent that has lsot a child would be but everything went well.
So my advice is wait as long as you possibly can before trying again and allow yourself time to grieve and come to terms with the loss of your Little Harry.
God bless
Love to you and your famuily and Little angel xxx
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
i found i was pregnant 4 months after nadia passed away i felt shocked and guilty at the time but once my little girl nioami was born healthy she helped fill the emptiness in my life and i thank god every day for her you can never replace your little son hilary but you have to do whats best for you wishing you all the best lots of love gabrielle xxxxx
RE: trying for a baby after losing my baby boy @ 21 weeks?
Hi Hilary,
I lost my son two months ago and we are trying for another baby. I so desperately want another baby, I want a little brother or sister for my 18 month old son and I want them to be close in age. It's not a replacement, I will never forget Charlie but I want another baby so badly I can't bear to wait. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks, do what's right for you. If you want another baby go for it and I wish you lots of luck.
Gillian xxx
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