i found out i was preg and i was so happy, nothing could get me down, but then the pains started coming, doctors didn't diagnose the problem, sent home thinking im ok, then a few days later went for my scan at 9 in the morning was so happy cause i was going to see my baby, my baby had died at eight weeks and for two weeks i was still carring thinking im preg and i cant stop crying every night.
RE: missed miscarriage and cant stop the tears please help.
Hi Paula. So sorry - I had 2 miscarriages in 2010 and in both like you the baby died at 8 weeks and I only found out at the scans. It's so heartbreaking and you need to allow yourself time to grieve. With every pregnancy you get so excited and then when something goes wrong it seems so unfair. Thinking of you and sending love. Hope you find the strength to try again in time. xxxxxxxx
RE: missed miscarriage and cant stop the tears please help.
hi caroline. thanks for the reply, im sorry as well, it feels like im the only one that is hurting, but after seeing what you have been through i no im not alone. so thanks again. thinking of you xxx
RE: missed miscarriage and cant stop the tears please help.
This happened to me 5 years ago. I miscarried at 8 weeks but didn't find out till my 12 week scan and then carried for another 2 months before my body started to reject the baby and started bleeding. I was told to come back in a few days after my scan but i just couldn't cos then my baby would really be gone. It was very hard but its something that does heal with time.
I then had a son that passed away 3 days after he was born which healed the loss of my miscarriage as it was such a deep loss.
a few months later a fell pregnant with my daughter which for me was where the healing i feel now came from. I'll never forget the babies i have lost i take them with me and now show my daughter all the love i never got to show the children i lost. xx
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Hi sweetie i myself miscarried at 12 weeks but our baby had died around 7-8 weeks i to was still carrying my baby round thinking i was still pregnant it was devastating that was in 2008. Then in 2009 i discovered i was expecting again only to discover our baby boy was ill at 12 weeks but we continued untill it came to our 20 week scan our baby boy was dying inside of me,his heart was failing i gave birth to him on 21 sept 2009 he had already died. It never gets any easier sweetheart if you ever want to chat please feel free to contact me xxxxx
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oh paula i am sending you so many hugs right now. i no exactly how ur feeling. i lost my baby 6 weeks ago today, it hurts like hell, i feel empty, miserable, angry oh every emotion i think.
i lost Indie as a missed miscarriage, i had sum spotting at 6 weeks and so was having early scans and things seemed ok, but wen i was 11 weeks and 2 days i started having more spotting and pain. when they did the scan it showed that Indie had passed away inside of me, but my cervix wasnt opening and i had to have an ERPC as my body wasnt allowing me to lose my baby naturally.
i was very ill after, and went into cervical shock, my family think my body jus gave up. physically im doin ok, but its jus mentally its so hard. so many people cant understand why im still so upset, or they say well it wasnt to be and i jus feel like that really doesnt help in fact it makes me feel worse. all i no that whilst i was supposed to be pregnant, those weeks are going to be so hard, and then my due date, but if i can get thru them in some way maybe it wont feel so raw in time. right now im grieving in anyway that helps me, i have a necklace with Indies name on that i always wear, i hug a teddy that i had brought for my baby to help me get to sleep, as that seems the worst time at the moment. i allow myself to go thru a range of emotions, angry, scared, deprerssed, disbelief etc everyday cos it helps. lots of love xx
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I understand you, where your comeing from, Two years ago i lost my baby beofre i even really knew i was pregnant. I know how you feel, the emotional pain hurts so much, but it will ease, and its fine to cry if you need too. Try not to shut out your family if they ask about it. try listing to these, i do when im thinking solely of my baby. it may help. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Qtvf94sCY4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2APLVytIGU&feature=fvwrel
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p3e8_XKoRo&feature=related
I hope it helps x
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Hi Paula. i know it's been some time now but as you say i cant stop the tears and i dont know what to do. I was supposed to be 11w1d today but the scan show our baby's heart has stopped beating. I am going i for a D&C tomorrow but i cant sleep,i cant take care of my 10 month old and i cant stop the tears. Is this pain ever going to stop?
RE: missed miscarriage and cant stop the tears please help.
to everyone that replied thank you so much for you lovely word, i thought i was the only one, my baby would of been here in 1 week, its still hard even more so im not with the dad but to know i have people i can talk to helps, thanks xxxx
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