It's my little boys 4th birthday on Tuesday, his first one when he won't be with us and it just breaks my heart. I'm not sure how I am going to get through the day. It's so hard trying to cope and put on a brave face for his brothers. How do you keep going?
Angela
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RE: How am i going to get through my little boys birthday?
HI ANGELA LAST MONTH IT WAS MY DAUGHTERS 21 ST BIRTHDAY AND I SPENT ALL DAY ON HERE READING ALL OF THE KIND MESSAGES AND CANDLES AND LOOKING AT THE LOVELY PICTURES PEOPLE WERE LEAVING HER AND I FOUND IT HELPED ME ALOT JUST GOT TO DO WHAT MAKES IT A BIT EASIER FOR YOURSELF KEEP GOING LOVE YOU WILL GET THROUGH THE DAY AND YOU WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMEONE TO TALK TO ON HERE IF YOU NEED TO
LOTS OF LOVE
TAKE CARE
SHARON XXX
RE: How am i going to get through my little boys birthday?
Hi Angela
My baby girls first birthday fell 3 weeks after she died so I think I may have still been in shock at the time, (still feel in shock now somedays). The way I got though it is by acknowledging it (probably the wrong word). We bought helium baloons and presents to go on her grave and then went to her beautiful resting place and sang happy birthday and let the balloons go. We then went to our favourite family resturant for tea. We always go there for our birthdays and it felt wrong to not go for Alicia's and my boys liked the fact that we still celebrated their baby sisters birthday. I know that not everyone could face doing that and everyone is different but just wanted to share with you how we got through it. It was a very painful day, infact I think it was the day that it hit me that she had truly gone, but even though it was very early days and I could have quite happily stayed in bed I had to mark her birthday in some way and that seemed the right way for us.
I will be thinking of you on Tuesday.
Take Care
Lorraine (Alicia's Mummy) xx
RE: How am i going to get through my little boys birthday?
hi Angela i understand how you feel its so hard to put on a brave face when your heart is breaking you will find great support here where people understand your pain thinking of you all my love Gabrielle xxxx
RE: How am i going to get through my little boys birthday?
Hi,
I have arranged for helium balloons and have gifts for his special place. We will celebrate it because it seems wrong not too but I think I will go to pieces. Everyday is so difficult. Thanks for your support.xxx
RE: How am i going to get through my little boys birthday?
Sorry for your loss Angela of your dear little boy. I'm so glad you have asked this question because it is my little boys first birtday after his passing soon and I too am a bit lost on what to do (he was six). I think this day may even more painful than the anniversary of his passing which is shortly after. This is when that are meant to get older not not be here! I will be thinking of you and I hope you gain strength. It's just wrong. I know you will do the right thing for you and your family. Take care of you.xxxx
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hi my name is geogina i am sorry for the loss ov your child i no how hard this day will be for you and how helpless you are going to feel but visit your sons resting place say all what you would ov done i no this is hard but you must grieve and then you have to let the day go if you let it consume you it will drive you mad you will never forget your baby and will miss him for a life time but you have got to be strong and go on if you are not already go and see a counciler it really does help you can talk to us all here anytime i will be praying for you and remember he is looking down on you god bless.xxx.
RE: How am i going to get through my little boys birthday?
Hi, my son died in 2007, so ive only had 1 birthday so far. I dont know why but i found that day more difficult than his anniversary, i think probably that was because of the things you imagine you should be doing. If it helps I tried as much as possible to do the same sorts of things that i would have done if he was here in the flesh. I do believe that they are with us and they know and see what goes on, and it also helps me carry on. I talk about him all the time and try as much as possible to include him with my other children, for example we talk about what he would be doing in heaven, whether he would like things that go on in our day to day lives. It still feels very raw for me, theres no right or wrong ways to do things, you just have to get by the best you can. Im so sorry that you have to go through this, my thoughts are with you xxxx
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Justins Brother.. Jacob was all that kept me going for Justins birthday. Jacob wanted it to be a BIG day and it was. I often turn to Jacob (he is Justins big brother)when I am feeling down. He was 5 when Mac passed and he def remembers him. I made Justins birthday the BEST.... just as I would have done if he was here. Wish we didnt even have to have this conversation... thinking of you!!!
Hugs
Sarah
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