hey .. i lost my little girl in 2009 she was misscarried but at 15 weeks so i got to hold her and spent night with her ect i now have a 1year old son and my partners brother just had a baby girl ... i cant help but feel im the only one to remember my daughter kadie my partners mum has been totaly dismissing the fact she was ever born and has been saying stuff like my first grandaughter and yeay i now have two grandkids ect its really hurting and i have tryd to say something but she just dismisses me all the time i know it much be hard as they never got to meet kadie but i want her to still be part of my family even tho shes not hear in person my heart is breaking knowone cares for her anymore and i dont know what to say xx
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Hi Shona, My situation is very, very different to yours although I too have lost a precious child, but reading about your feelings makes me feel so sad for you. Kadie was the first grandaughter, you know that in your heart, but it must be so difficult when others dont acknowledge that fact too. The most important thing when you loose a child is to keep their memory alive and it means so much to me when others remember my son that I cant imagine what it would be like if they didnt. I hope that you can make those around you understand your need and be more sensitive towards you. You deserve it and Kadie deserves to be remembered. Maybe your partner could talk to his Mum about it? I wish you all the best xxx
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Hun Kadie will always be a part of your family and Heart people who dont understand that are missing the blessing of your little Angel Kadie
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thank you so much susan im sorry for your loss .. my partner steven has tryed saying to his mum and gran but doesnt want to upset them and i understand that but then by the way they are forgetting kadie is really upsetting me he keeps saying as long as we remember her thats all that matters but as much as i know its true i also think that kadies nana and great nana ect should remember and not just dismiss her .. my heads just a mess xx
thank you mary i know that not everyone would understand and its hard for them as they never got to meet her but i want my son to know about kadie as he is brough up .. on her annversery and her birthday e go candles let go of balloons ect so he grows up knowing about her ect but if other family members dont agnollage her its going to be harder for him xxxx
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Hi Shona,
You're beautiful Angel will always be with you. I too lost my son he was still born & I find that so many people just do not want to talk about him & it hurts very much & it hasn't even been a year. I sometimes feel like im not even in the room Im still hurting so much & I feel like screaming out loud to try & make people understand what I am going through.
My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the best
Sending you a big hug xxxxx God bless
Angela
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