GoneTooSoon

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

Oh Julie I am so sorry, Your not going mad your just hurting and maybe you havn't given yourself the time to grieve properly and because those around you see your strength possibly think your coping.
Don't be scared Julie if talking helps I can be here for you.
x Wendy

wendy FARRER
November 20, 2008

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

oh sweetheat i know how u feel as i didnt talk then one day i wanted to greive and everyone treated me like i should be over it as time had passed :(
here for u hunni we can listen
xxxxxxxxxxx

Mummy n Daddy of Ellie
November 20, 2008

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

Julie.
I am so sorry that you lost your little boy.At the time perhaps because you were being so strong for everyone else you forgot about YOU.Time passes so quickly and perhaps now is the time to Grieve some more for your little boy.There is no right or wrong way to grieve we are all different in how we think and feel.Some quiet time I feel sure will help you.You most certainly are not going mad or anything like it.I am so sorry you are feeling like this.Perhaps now is the time to let everyone else be strong so that you can slowly continue to grieve for your little boy.Take care Love from Jane xxx

Jane smith
November 20, 2008

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

Hi Julie

I really do think that you would benefit from "Talking Therapy" or Berievement Counselling.

Maybe a trip to visit yout GP would be a place to start...I'm sure they will be able to offer the best advice for you.

So sorry you're going through hun xxxx

Lucy Smith
November 21, 2008

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

im so sorry to hear about your little one, i lost my lil sister and I like you was so strong at the time making sure everyone else was ok and was afraid to admit to anyone that i was not and am not coping. lately ive been so upset, sad and angry that im worrying that im going mad and getting scared that im losing control, although its still early days for my family,(my sis went 18mnths ago) anyway i just want to wish you well and that you find a way through this rough time, take care and take some me time. and maybe time isnt the great healer everyone says it is, everyone is different p.s im new to this so hope it comes across ok. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

No your not going mad it is normal, at some point you have to deal with grief, that's whats happening to you now.
Therapy comes in all shapes and sizes. Like you I tried to be strong for every one else but inside it was driving me crazy.
I was not the sort of person who would have gone for counselling It was people on here who were the ones who helped me. They understood the pain and listened.

Just knowing that so many people understood the grief helped. just writing down my feelings, with out having to worry about upsetting people helped. Take care. Ingrid xxx

Ingrid A
November 21, 2008

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

HI NO YOUR NOT GOING MAD ITS NEARLY 5 YEARS SINCE JAMIE WENT TO HEAVEN BUT THE PAST COUPLE OF WEEKS ITS BEEN GETIN HARDER FOR ME I CANT SLEEP AN ALL I DO IS CRY I DONT KNOW WHY ITS ALL STARTED NOW BUT EVEN WITH MY MUM AND DAD ITS GETING HARDER TO COPE TOO I DONT HAVE ANY BODY TO TALK TO ABOUT HOW I FEEL AN ITS REALY DRIVIN ME MAD I THINK I KEPT MY FEELINGS HIDDEN FROM THE START XXX

caroline jamiedermottsmum
November 21, 2008

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

ie agree with ingrid and caroline, i couldnt deal with councilling my parents r having its not helping them. and i just dont sleep anymore and as well have no-one to talk to, dnt get me wrong i have a supportive family but when i talk about how i feel they get upset and that makes me feel bad. everday i write 2 my sis in a book like i used 2 talk 2 her, ppl told me i was upsetting myself but it made me feel better, my mum does it everyday.whatever makes you feel better.xxxxxxx

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

Hi hunni, You didnt grieve properly that is why you are feeling like this now , i know many people through my work that this happened too.
Go see your gp, or even nurse if u feel like u cant talk to him maybe cause he a man??
Talking about your precious baby will help, talkingaboutwhat you are feeling will help.Councelling is not for everyone but it is for some.It may not help say bro or sis but it will u or ur dp if not it may help close friends.You will only knwo when you have been a few times.Dont dismiss it hun.
There is no set time for grief to start or end.
Many of us will be here if you ever need just message us.or post.
Megga hugs hun for you x x x x

Tina wright
November 21, 2008

RE: 9.5 years on and I need help.

i lost my 20 year old son 5 years ago i as you did helped every one else but neglected myself,what you are going through is delayed grief dont be scared let it out i went to the top of a hill only last week & cried shouted screemed why my son folk say times a healer but unless you have gone through the pain of loosing a child what do they know wheres the rule book to tell you how to grieve,keep thinking happy things you did with your child that make you laugh it wont heal but things will get better best wishes to you x

harry armstrong
December 1, 2008