I was 18 when i lost my dad 46 years ago.I thought my world would end.20 years ago i lost my dear mom.I cant get over her, but i had a sister 18 years older than me who was my friend, my councillor, my all.She was taken away from me in 2006.Its really hard to think shes not here.I very often wait for a phone call from her.Before this i lost a brother Derek, he hadnt been ill in years just died in his sleep.I also lost a beloved friend who was like a brother to all of us.Bill Smith was everything a brother could be.Then from 14th december 2008 until 30h january 2009 we lost 5 family and a friend.(2 aunties one we were very close to.Bless you Aunty Joan,a brother Ron,
My brother in law Wilf,My mother in law Dolly,and friend Barry)I cant pull myself together since the loss of these people.I also lost a stepson in 1994, which my husband as never got over losing.It ruined his health and personality.He also lost 2 brothers in the space of 6 weeks.Ive never been offered any councilling how are we expected to cope.
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RE: My Family.
Hello Sheila
My daughter was murderd and i hit rock bottom going through all the emotions of hate and anger and still am
the day my daughter was burid i smashed every item in my house and i mean every thing i just lost it and gone through other things as well yet i have never been offered help
had i been a drug abusers or had a drink problem the help is there as a few where i live get this help so why is there no help for grief i would like to know the answer and why we dont get the help
bless your angels and take care
kxx
RE: My Family.
sheila, omg i dont know how you have coped with all the sad losses you have had i lost my mother 17years ago and i thought it was the end of my world and for a long time it was i never thought i would get over it, i know you never really get over it but you learn to live with it, but my son john died in a road traffic accident in november last year and i know i will never get over that he was only 36 and has 2 daughters 14 and 5 years he has left a space in my life and my heart that can never be filled and im not coping very well and on a few occasions thought about joining him, but you must be a very strong person to have come through all off that with no counciling you are amazing love to you and all your angels cathy xx
p.s you have been through so much, you yourself would make a really good councilor take care x
RE: My Family.
hi my name is georgina can i say how terrible it is to hear that you.v had such a hard time to cope with one loss is bad enough but to go through what you have been through must be so difficult i have suffered the loss ov my dad and brother both who suffered terminal illness and both within 18mths ov each other so i do know some ov what your going through i can only say that i found that my counciler helped visiting his resing place keeping a file ov photos poems and wrighting personal accounts ov memories i no it may seem as though it may not help but it does help to let you keep some control over what is happening allow yourself to grieve give yourself time in the day to set a side just to gather your thoughts have a chat remember the good times but you must always remember to stay strong remember that the people who love you want you to be srong
RE: My Family.
I to lost my son 5 years ago and was told by my dr to call cruise bereavement councelling ,everytime i rang got answerphone it's the last thing you want to talk to, bearing in my mind i was already suffering from depression from when my dad died 11 years ago after losing my son i lost a grandaughter mum and brother .All i want is to be able to talk, i feel so angry at times .I rarely leave the house only when it is necessary and my daughter is with me ,so where is all the help. I agree Anne if you had a drug or drink problem you get all the help going xx
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