I lost my brother last year thorugh suicide he was 22 years old. i myself am now 22 and although i knew life would end one day for everyone i had never really lost anyone.
I never in a million years thought that it would hurt so much, some days are easier than others granted, But your heart is broken and your life turned upside down, torn apart...and yet your suposed to move on and get on with life?
On Good Days i think i love him i miss him but he wouldnt want me moping around he would want me to have a party (or something along those lines) but on other days for 24 hours all i can think of is him?
How does the mind work... is it just me that feels bad for having a good day and "moving on" as they say? or does everyone feel guilty for having good days?
i know it gets easier with time and it is as days go on getting that little bit easier.when im really down I focus on a memorial site i made on facebook, that really really helps!
Anyone following me or have i lost the plot?
Would be intested to know what everyone else thinks! xxx
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
hi have not loss famliy buy suicide but hi have loss love,d one and best firend,s with cancer and yes hi do feel gilty that hi can have a good time wen my mum and granperents and firend,s are not hear with me to have some fun , u have not lost the plot hope this helps in some way sorry about my writing hi get very nurvas on the computer love carol ann james xx
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
i lost my son Robert last april and like you i feel guilty i feel guilty if i dont go to the cemetery to visit him i used to go up nearly every day but it was breaking my heart walking away and leaving him there.so i had to stop going up now i feel guilty for not going
also if i go out to my sister inlaws and have a night in i also feel guilty cause i always say to myself he should be here enjoying himself
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
I LOST MY SON 8 YRS AGO ; BELIEVE ME I USED TO FEEL GUILTY IF I SMILED ; I THOUGHT I WAS NOT ALLOWED TO MOVE ON ; ITS BEEN 8 YRS NOW AND IM LEAVING MY DAUGHTERS HOME WHERE IVE LIVED SINCE I LOST JOEY ; I KNOW MY SON IS WITH ME ALL THE TIME AND WOULD NOT WANT ME TO SPEND EVERY WAKING HOUR GRIEVING ; SO DONT FEEL GUILTY IF YOU MOVE ON ; YOUR LOVED ONE WOULD WANT YOU TO MOVE ON ; AND I LOVED MY LAD MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF ;BUT I THINK OF HIM SMILING AND SAYING GO FOR IT MAM ; ALISON X
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
i would love to give you advice im in the same situation but i feel the seem, feels like there is no end to the pain worry and everything my life has changed forever.dont think it never goes back..x
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
Hi. I lost my dad thru suicide in 1999 and its still really hard. So hard that sometimes i think i am going to go crazy. It is easier some days more than others and i know your brother would not want you mopin about.He would be tellin you to get out and enjoy life. Taking his own life was his choice and doesnt mean you should end your aswell.Even if it is by just mopin about.I am here to talk if you need to.My msn is karencalder86@hotmail.co.uk
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
Hi my name is nicola i am 32,my big brother also commited suicide age 22,i was 15.Now that im older i have had yrs to think and feel all that you are feeling now, also try to understand the reasons why?My feelings and thoughts now are when someone takes their own life they take the reasons why with them.We are not meant to know why,its not that our loved ones didnt love us they were unhappy and didnt want that life for them neither for us,my brother had planned for a long time what he was doing,we didnt find out until he was gone.Thats the way they wanted it,i know life isnt fair but what life does throw at us makes us all stronger it may not feel like it now but sometime soon you will feel stronger in the fact that this is what they wanted and we as family ae left hurting but in my heart i know you all will get and feel what i do now,love nicky.xxx
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
Hi, Danielle,
I know exactly what u mean. I ,ost my daughter 13 months ago. She was extremely ill and in so much pain that i know her passing was a relief in some ways because it was breaking my heart to see her in so much pain. I feel guilty when i laugh, i dont go out, i refuse to enjoy myself, yet i know she would want me to. I dedicated my whole life to her because she was my life. I have good and bad days, and when i cry i actually feel my heart will break, it hurts too much to cry. I hope one day i can listen to her fav music and smile, but atm i dont listen to music cos it simply hurts way to much. My life will NEVER be the same again,how can it be when there is a massive part of me missing?? Life is totally different now, but we must go on, we are expected to go on, what else can we do? Things will get better im sure, but never the same, that much i know for certain.Keep yr chin up and one day you will be able to think of yr brother with a smile on yr face xx
RE: My brother took his life aged 22 years old.
hi i lost my boyfriend over a year ago now he was 26 he had so much 2 live for he had a lovley daughter and a lovley step son it just hurts so much that i am never going see him again i know life dose end at one point but not that young we had so many plans 4 the future and i will never understand why he did it he was the love of my life he was such a lovley man so caring would always put people first i will never know why he did it and that hurts so much but i got to be strong for my kids they keep me going i dont know what i wud do without them the memories keep me going also as i have so many i think of my alex and smile as he wud make me smile and laugh so much u do get on with your life u got no choice but it dosent say u arnt thinking of them all the time as there isnt a day that goes by that i dont think of my alex may be gone but will never be forgotten x x
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