Hi my name is valerie.I just recently lost my mother and sometimes when i think about her and realize i am never gonna see her again i get sick and anxious.She was my best friend,we talked every day.How do i cope ? I feel like i'm losing my mind. She was in the car with a punk who was highly intoxicated and he was acting foolish and lost control,flipped the car 7 times and my mother wasnt wearing a seatbelt that day.Why? She always wore her seat belt,and why was she in the car with an idiot.I have so much anger right now,is that wrong?Is it wrong for me to hate this man that took my mother away from me?Right now he is in jail for 1st degree manslaughter and i hope he stays there.I miss mom so much,,,how do i cope?Its too hard.
RE: Missing my mother..
Valerie,
I don't think it's wrong to hate that man, I would too. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum, the crash sounds like it was extremely serious-flipping 7 times is a lot.
It is still very early days as you said the passing was recent so I think hate is probably the 'healthy' emotion to be feeling right now. I'm sure you'll go through the motions - hate, resentment, guilt for hating, sadness etc.. but I hope that when you are ready you will come to terms with your Mum's passing and not waste any of your time or energy on the man and just focus on dealing with her loss and remembering your special memories.
Best wishes and my sympathies are with you.
Love Ally xxxx
(Mummy of Angel Lucy and Earth Angel Amy)
RE: Missing my mother..
VALERIE I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE FEELING AND GOING THROUGH RIGHT NOW, WORDS CAN NEVER TAKE PAIN AND LOSS AWAY . YOUR MOTHER WAS YOUR EVERYTHING AND NOTHING AND NO ONE CAN EVER REPLACE HER. LIFE IS SO CRUEL AT TIMES. GOD BLESS YOU.
RE: Missing my mother..
I UNDERSTAND EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.I LOST MY MUM LENA MEIGHAN ON THE 15TH DECEMBER2007.SHE DIED FROM C.O.P.D AND LOSING HER HAS BEEN SO TRAUMATIC FOR ME AND STILL IS.I WAS WITH HER EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE AND WHEN I WAS STRUCK DOWN WITH M.E SHE WAS MY ROCK AND CARED FOR ME EVERYDAY AND EVEN WHEN SHE WAS REALLY ILL SHE ALWAYS THOUGHT OF ME.IVE NOT ONLY LOST MY MUM,IVE LOST MY BEST FRIEND AND THE HARDEST PART OF ALL THIS IS I COULD NOTHING TO SAVE HER AS SHE FOUGHT TO LIVE HOOKED TO A VENTILATOR.IT GOES THROUGH MY MIND EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY DAY.XXX
RE: Missing my mother..
hi i understand what ur going through as i lost my mum 4 weeks ago 2 kidney failure :-( and my life is turned up side down.i was with my mum when she passed away & like urself feel so lost without her.But try & keep strong & remember all the good times & think would ur mum want u 2 be upset beleive me i know its hard as i lived with my mum & im a the daughter as i have 5 brothers so my mum was my life & sometimes i just wish God would come & take me so i can be with my mum again. God Bless You xx
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