can anyone help me my dad died last year and it seems like yesterday i lost my brother too in 1999 i seemed for some reason to cope better with that i loved my brother and i dearly miss him and it left a big hole in my heart and a massive gap in my family but my wee precious dad i just cant move on on the outside am fine with everyone but in the inside am ready to explode i want my dad back pleassssssssssseeeeeeee am turning into someone i dont like angry, hate seening anyone with their dad why cant i have mine am 43yrs old and i feel like a wee girl again wanting her daddy i am constanly crying anyone mentions his name i just get a massive lump in my throat my heart is so sore and i dont think it will ever heal i have lovely brothers n sisters but we just dont discuss it we all know what each other thinks we just dont say anything i always knew my dad loved me and my brothers n sisters he just never said it but i always said i loved him to him and one day when he was in hospital a few weeks before he passed i said " bye da see you the morra love ya " he said " see ya hen love you " i knew then my da was going and i have that lovely memorie nobody can take from me xxx can someone please just bring my wee da back i love and miss him so much thanks julia glasgow xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
Hi Julia i too lost my dad on the 31st may 2009 and all i want to do is see him once more, the pain in my heart gets worse everyday but people tell me that this gets easier ( i hope it does)I was and still am a daddy`s girl and im 38 years old, just remember the good times and be honoured to have had him for the time you did ...you know he`s with you as my dad is with me,...you will be ok im sure take care hun xxxx
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
Hi Julia it's 4 years since my dad passed away & it's still raw with me till this day. I don't think you ever get over loosing a parent especially if like me you were a daddy's girl & his first born. I get fed up with people telling me to get over it i will be 51 in a few weeks & not seeing my dad's name on birthday & christmas cards reduces me to tears. Take care xxxxx
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
Hi Julia if I didn't know any better I'd say that you were writing about me! I too lost my father in February 2008 and i am still having a very hard time coping with it.Being the youngest girl of the family I will always be daddy's little girl even though i am 47 I still cry like a baby and want so bad to have my dad back again. When my birthday came I looked forward to his phone call and hearing him sing happy birthday off key which would always make me laugh and say "keep your day job dad" to which he would reply "I'm retired now so this is my day job".. i never got that phone call and the pain in my heart hurt so much I almost ended up in the hospital.
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
I don,t think you ever get over it. you just learn to accept it.I lost my da in 1982,and would still give anything to see him one last time.You really were lucky to get to say goodbye to your da,but I truly believe they are there waiting for us.You must talk to your brothers and sisters about your da,after all he was here and a big part of your life.we all still talk about our da and our brother who we lost in 1968 every time we are together.your memories will never fade,but I can assure you the hurt does get better.God bless you hen.
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
hi,i know what i'am guna say may not help but i do no i understand.
i lost my dad last year and it hurts like hell.
i didnt no my dad for 37 years and only got to spend a year and half wiv him before he left this hell hole we call earth, i now no he is in a much better place and is at peace wiv himself .
i treasure the times we spent together tho they was not many as we lived to far apart.
but that didnt stop me loving him or wantin to be near him .
now i can't say it all gets better in time coz everyone goes thro things differently, but wot i can say is if u need to talk or anything just drop me aline ok u wont be bothering me ok .
take care and maybe speak soon sally x
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
hi sweetheart my name is georgina please listern to me i lost my dad and brother within the spae ov 18mths ov each other both to terminal illness and i was there and wathed them both go to me my dad was my world my bet friend never in all my life had we had a crossed word i no what you are going through i also took it harder over my dad even though i watched my brother have a brave 3year fight against cancer it is so different a sibbling and a father it made me very ill and on monday its my dads birthday and im gutted inside you will never get over your dad how could you but i promise ou it eases with time think ov your god memories you and your dad had no one can eva take that be strong for your dad
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
i do addvise that you get some counciling it really is helping me if every morning you want a few words or a chat tell him what your up to i no it may sound crazy but it helped to ease my pain ov being cut off spending time at his resting place also helped as i chated to him said a pray and feel i am watched over by him and he see.s the after loving care and how much he is loved i do believe our dad.s are in a resting place are out ov pain and are happy at peace your dadwill never leave you and that you must remember in time you will see when you here a song that reminds you ov him or a film that makes you think o him..thats just your dad saying hi its ok here and i am fine i didnt no him but i am sure he would not want you to go on hurting be strong.xxx
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
hi my name is Tricia i lost my dad very suddenly just over a month ago on the 22/7.my Dad and i only had the pleasure of sharing eachothers lives since i was 15 iam 26 now.I thought id have my dad for alot longer than i did.He and i were very close i feel a loss that i cant even put into words,all i had was Dad and my fiancee.I know if i were totally alone that he wouldnt have left me so i know in my heart that he wouldve been at peace in that way,although it doesnt make it any easier everyday when i wake up and realise it is all BUT a dream...id like to chat to whoever has the time. please reply...broken,Tricia
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
HI HUN SO SORRY FOR YA LOSS .
I TOO LOST MY ♥DAD♥ MY WONDERFUL BEST FRIEND ..
A TRUE DADDIES GIRL ALWAYS AND FOREVER ,JUST LIKE YOU ..
ITS SO HARD TO EVEN IMAGINE A DAY WITH OUT THEM ISN'IT?
WHAT YA GOT TO TRY TO DO IS REMEMBER R WONDERFUL ♥DADS♥ WOULD NEVER ,EVER LEAVE US . THERE ALWAYS WITH US ALL THE TIME . HOW MANY TIMES DO YA FEEL SOMETHING BLOW BEHIND YA OR THINK SOMEONES THERE?
I DO LOTS AND I BET YOU DO TOOEH?
ITS THEM SAYING HEY ! AM STILL RUDY HERE YA KNOW !
OR A SONG COMES TO MIND ,OR ON THE RADIO THAT REMINDS YA OF OUR WONDERFUL ♥DADS♥ WELL THERE YA GO !
YA NEVER GET OVER IT AND NEVER WILL HUN .YOU JUST LEARN TO ADJUST TO THE SISTUATION ..FOR THE TIME BEING THAT SI ..
WELL ALL MEET UP AGAIN ONE DAY ,WHEN GODS READY AND ONLY WHENS HE'S READY ..
I HAD A PLAQUE MADE FOR MI ♥DAD♥ AND PUT IT IN MI GARDEN , I LITE CANDLES AND TALK TO HIM ALL THE TIME ..
IF YA DONT HAVE A GARDEN JUST HAVE A SPOT IN YA AHOUSE NIT A SHRINE OR OWT DAFT LIKE THAT ?
JUST A SPECIAL ADD AND DAUGHTER SPACE A PHOTO ETC.. YA CAN GO TALK TO OR JUST SIT ! SOUND BARMY, BUT HEY ,EACH TO THERE OWN EH?
TRY WRITING A WEE POEM ETC.. JUST ABOUT YA ♥DAD♥
..WHAT EVER YA DO REMEMBER HES ALWAYS WITH YA HUN ,R ♥DADS♥ NEVER LEAVE THERE LITTLE PRINCESSES NEVER !! TAKE ACRE L♥VE RACH ...ANOTHER DADDIES GIRL XX♥
RE: how do i get over the loss of my dad
WOW DIDNT REALISE ID TYPED SOOOOOOOOO MUCH SORRY HUN ,BET YA ASLEEP HALF WAY THROUGH !!LMAO LOVE RACH X♥
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