I don't know what I am trying to say with this heading...but tonight I had a very hard blow hit me right in my face...I have a friend that I met in a hospital when I was having some bouts with depression....she was there for the same thing...we were roommates....become close like most do and got to know each other...we have since kept in touch u know off and on for 4 years now...Her husband is 70 and not doing very well with diabetes and has just given up and living his life the way he wants...Im sorry to drag this out but I have to explain....I dont know what to do....she turns 59 next Sunday....and she called me tonight just outta no where like we usually do....and after I wish her a happy early birthday...she tells me shes got one more to celebrate...her 60th then she is going home...I laughed...not taking her the least bit serious...she knows what I have been through and knows how much this site means to me and how it is helping me get on with my own grief...she knows all this...and still tells me this then says that her and her husband have made a pact....soon after she turns 60...they are going on together...I am so distrought....I have no clue what to say to her...what do I do?? They have no family...neither ever had children...Please someone HELP ME figure this out.
Thanx very much for taking the time to read this...
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Kris
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RE: Suicide before its suicide???
A lot can happen in a year and I think all you can do is pray for them! Ultimately it is their choice and she really should not have put this burden on your shoulders! Love Mary xxxx
RE: Suicide before its suicide???
Hi Maybe yoou should talk to your community mental health nurse this way it helps lift the burden she has placed on your shoulders an they may beable to help them to you can also feel you did your bit to help them Ultimatly it is their choice also your decision whether to stay in touch with her. hope a solution is found for you take care be kind to your self love peace xxx
RE: Suicide before its suicide???
hi sweetheart my name is georgina as you no depression is a serious illness and can lead you to all emotional states wot you can do is let this drag you back down to were your going back in hospital thats no good although you could never ever stop a person from doing that what you can do is try to interveen i would say that for there own saftey they need medical intervention go and speak to the people who treated her and tell them what you have told us but do not blame yourself you cannot stop some one they would find a way if that is what they truely want
RE: Suicide before its suicide???
page 2 ov my responce..the only possible thing you can do as a friend is pass this over to people who have the power and the training to help her in 9 out ov 10 cases ov people who want to end there life they do not tell you they just go and do it because its to painful to talk about they dont want you to seek them help and because they dont want you to talk them out ov it or keep your eye on them its an odd thing to pre warn some one ov an act like this maybe your friend is just going back ill and needs the help ov the medical team you stay strong do not go ill yourself and hand this ova to the hospital.xx
RE: Suicide before its suicide???
Thank you all so much for the advise...she said she was telling me to prepare me...not to hurt me...but it did anyways...she lives n another town from me...I don't know who her doctor is now...I do know she goes for shock theropy every 3 weeks...Shes happy about the decision she has made...I dont understand...I come visit my angels and others and I pray everyday for just that "one more" that I know will never come til we are all reunited...and thats at GODS will...not mine...Yes I do know how serious depression is...but to plan your death...to take your presence away from those that love you...and to TELL them your doing this...I know its her choice...but I still feel I NEED to do SOMETHING....I called my doctor this am and wo knowing hers....he cant do anything...He told me I should seperate myself from her...how do I knowing this may happen?? Isnt that abandonment??
Thank you all again for helping me with this...I absolutely ADORE this place!! everyone is such a family and I knew I came to the right place with this!!
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Kris
RE: Suicide before its suicide???
hi sweetheart its georgina again hope things are going ok with your friend i am supprised you havent had more help with what you have told the doctor did you say you was in the same hospital if so maybe thats the way to go or if its an emergencie the police will respond to a call like that and take them into hospital i hope you are doing ok and keeping strong its a lot to deal with and no one should be put under that strain although i can see that shes saying its so it wouldnt be a shock or maybe it was her good by but even so as i said first time round its normaly very un common to pre warn some one as they will interveen as any one would if you would like to chat more please feel free to go onto my garden and leave a message and i will get straight back to you god bless you take good care ov yourself.xxx/
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