I have lost trust in everything and really everyone. My husband committed suicide in a drug/alcohol mental health ward. I have fought for everything, and am still waiting. Ironically they have placed me with exactly the same area team who dealt with him. Everyone says move on, but i cant??? i really dont know how too
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Losing someone is very painful, there is lots of people on here that you can talk to. Its not so easy to just move on, you never forget about the person.
Sarah x
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I'm so sorry for your loss Sue! Suicide - even unintentional - brings its own unique devastation becasue it is filled with 'What Ifs' when in fact no one has the power to change the time of someone's death which I believe is written at our moment of birth. When people say 'Move On' I personally don't believe they are telling you to forget! I think they are saying 'Accept it has happened and that there was and is nothing you can do about it. Be kind to yourself and don't drive yourself crazy looking for answers you will never find'. What will give your husband the greatest peace of all is seeing your getting on with your life and believe me he will be sharing in the joy of your living because he is still loving your somewhere!
Love Mary xxxx
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I dont know how to accept it though. While he was there i felt tormented by the different things he,d do... telling him y did u do this this way etc. Guilt is one thing i never bargained for. I feel disloyal, disgrace and most of all so much distrust. But i luv visiting him here. He rang me from there said he was gonna make them listen, i said ok do it if u must. But to hang!! and die on his vomit which i only heard from the inquest. If there is a god, i wanna know why me, why loose 2 men so close to me in four months. I genuinely believe i must of been so evil somewhere
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My brother commit suicide in 1991 so I do understand a bit about guilt and regret! My husband and best friend died within 6 weeks of each other last year and basically this is life it is cruel and unforgiving and you come to accept it because you cannot do anything else. All you can do is FORGIVE your husband for 'going' and over time you will find peace and solace that he is in a better place and nothing can ever hurt or harm him again. Don't dwell on how he died or beat yourself up with guilt... fill your heart and mind with all the happy good times you had becasue I'm sure they far outway 'the ending'
Love Mary xxxxx
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i truly believe you wont settle to you gain some kind of closer witch you need an how you can b placed with the same time that dealt with your belated husband must be very frushtrating for, i pray god eases your aching heart x
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i am visiting my irish relatives, i am really hoping for support but dont think they will be able to understand the full extent. It was,nt just the death, it was so many lackings, so many things could of been done, i warned them time over.
I dont want to be like this i want to eventually help work with teens trying to make them understand how drugs can change ur whole perception. I am hoping i will be given a chance some where
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hi sue,i understand what you mean.My son kyle also died from hanging.It has been 17mths.I constantly ask why,what if,if only.......I know i will never get the answers but it doesnt stop me asking.i feel like time has stood still for me.I wish i could say something to help you,but i cant move on my self.Someone said that to me last week!I just replyed...WHERE TO?. love to you and your family.XxX
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I work for TheWorldsPeople.com it is the right thing to do to move on, but moving on does not mean, forgetting your husband. There are so many unique ways in which you could remember your husband. Although, it is very sad that he is no longer here, celebrate the life that he had. You will only be able to move on in your own time, so do not feel pressured.
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It's been four months today since I lost my son and every month on the 21st it's like I keep waiting for something to happen. It's like the movie "Groundhog Day", I want to change the events, but they will happen anyway.
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Holly i am sorry for your loss. Its heartbreaking, cos i remember each day as though it was yesterday. I feel i must of been so nasty to live with this. Then i feel chris would be proud of me going on. They say we need a "new toolbox" to cope with new changes, trouble is sometimes i feel. Why should i change, why??? its a ever going circle. Not many understand.
my luv and heart go out to you. Try to be strong
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