Derek committed suicide a long time ago now but I still love him so much. I just wondered if anybody else has been through this, be nice to become friends. Derek was my ex boyfriend and we spoke 3 weeks before it happened. That conversation will stick with me. I am a Christian and now I know it is time to give Derek back to his Heavenly Father and just hope that one day I will see him again. Love you always Derek. From Elaine xx
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hiya elaine,im really sorry too here wot happened to your derek,well your not on your own,im lindsey im 40 and im from leeds,well andy my boyfriend which i will not call him my ex.he hung himself in prison 6 years ago,but he didnt died straight away,he died 5 days later a day b4 my birthday,so ill never forget that,b4 he died i got into bed with him and cuddle him till he pasted away.it really broke my heart i couldnt understand why he did such a thing,it still plays on my head even now.andy never leaves my head 24 7 hes there.i was with him for 20 years and have 2 girl from him.because i missed him that much i just wanted to be with him,i tryed killing myself too,BUT im glad i got found,coz my life changed for the better,andy didnt want me up there with him he turned hes back on me wen i took my overdose i died but he didnt want me.so he helped me from above to get me were i am now.sorry im going on,i just love talking about andy,if you want 2 talk we might beable 2 help each other,please takecare coz thats wot your darling derek wants you 2 do,hes always with you.xx
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Hi Elaine,my name is Cherylley.I lost my mother to suicide in 1998,she had 1 attempts in all before she finally succeeded.then 3 and a half years ago my brother committed suicide in prison.robert had been suffering from depression following our mothers death and over a number of years went from a hard-working law-abiding young man into a world of paranoia and guilt (as he had fallen out with our mam shortly before her passing and never got to say sorry)he was imprisoned for a minor offence when what he really need was medical help.He wrote to me and told me what he was going to do and asked me for my permission for him to die.Unfortunately the prison service failed to act on my and his estranged wifes warnings of what he intended to do and he consequently took his own life.I am so angry that they didnt act and his life saved,but,from experience with my mum,i feel that had he been stopped,it would only have been a matter of time before he tried again and although my heart is breaking i atleast know he's out of pain and that his demons have been laid to rest.I also now have two of the most beautiful guardian angels with me for the rest of my life,just as you have your angel too xxx
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I too lost my natural mother through suicide when i was 7,she was just 25 yrs old.
Suicide is a very cruel cause of death for families,it causes so much anger,regret,guilt,embarrasment and pain
The death of anybody in any circumstance is so hard to cope with,as we allways look for someone to blame even if its unintentional,but with suicide there is nothing worse than the thought of your loved one having sole responsibility for their own death.
Nobody but our loved ones are resposible,and thats hard to keep in mind.There may have been other factors or foundations that led to their decision,but in truth its so sad to know and admit suicide is a decision made by someone who has the inability to cope with certain situations,and sees this as a way out of their pain xx
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Aww lindsay im sorry you have had to suffer this pain,but i feel you have answered your own question if you review your reply...
You had stated you dont know why he took his own life,maybe you dont know the root cause,but he must have been very scared or emotional over something,just like you when you attempted this yourself..
you both must have been hurting so deeply over something to consider this,unfortunatly your boyfriend didnt make it,but you did...both in similar situations but with very different outcomes..
I hope you can move forward in your life in a more positive way xx
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hiya katrina,thank you for your message,it was really nice wot you said,i have moved forwards it took a long time like.but it still plays on my head every day,i wish i could get it out but i carnt,but i dont let it get 2 me.thank you anyway,takecare linz.xx
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If the Coroner records a verdict of accidental death is it still classed as suicide, what does everyone think?
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http://groups.msn.com/welostourlovedonesthroughsuicide/_whatsnew.msnw
any of the members of GTS who have lost a loved one in this way please do join our group..we have unfortunately over 100 members and the group is very supportive
love sheila
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Mary,im not familiar with that phrase connected to suicide,but heres what i do know.
suicide,left as a open verdict...which means there may have been issues that wernt conclusive enough to state a definate intentional taking of ones life....which my mother had on her coroner report.
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Hiya to all that have posted here. I think it is a source of comfort that we can get to know each other and know that we are not alone. It is such a shame that it has to be in such unfortunate circumstances as these. I gave my life to God in 2006 after realising there are things in this life that were really pulling me down and I can say it was the best thing I have ever done. Im not a person who tries to force my beliefs upon anyone, everyone has a choice, but I thought I would just like to add how my faith has helped me through many different things in my life. God Bless you all.
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