My Daughter was 23 & alcohol & drug abusive. The State transferred custody of her 2 babies (6 wk & 15 mo olds) to me a yr ago. Last month she was found dead from an overdose of cocaine. My entire family & any friends are disgusted with my Daughter calling her a piece of crap kid & even worse mother so when she died I don't hurt any less than any Mom whose child died "dignified". I am all alone in my grieeving & I hurt SO bad. My Daughter was a lost soul but I LOVE her unconditionally. She was my 1st born baby & I had her 23 yrs watching her go down the drain the past 6 yrs. Raising her babies & seeing my baby in them every day is painful for my grieving. Just because she didn't die respected, doesn't mean her death hurts me less, it is killing me & there NO ONE that feels any compassion to help me talk about my horrible loss...
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RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
you know the saying ,people in glass houses should not throw stones its them who will be cut to pieces,so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter remember all the lovely times with her before she was ill and take pride in her she has given you lovely children to love and cherish xxxxxxx
RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
hello Donna
people can be so hard,so tough and so judging,one the hardest things in this life I find to deal with.
I am so very sorry about your daughter,my heart aches for you.
my mum died because she was an alcaholic,she got lots of judgement from the police,neighbours,everyone.
I feel very much alone with my grief too.
what a beautiful caring mother you are((HUGS)).
RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
your daughter may have taken a wrong road in part of her life but she did two wonderful things in her life and that was to give into your care two grandchildren for you to love and nurture. I hope through these children that your hurt will lessen and that they will grow strong and proud ,.I am sorry for your loss,
RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
Hello Donna, The people who say these things to you should be ashamed of them selves , but I am right to assume these people have never lost a child , because if they had they wouldnt say any thing.
Being a parent means unconditional love forever no matter what. I suppose for some they see that she took drugs and drank but like you said she was lost and you didnt have a choice. You are so brave to take on two little ones and I hope every thing works out for you. Real friends always understand , real family does too. Sending prayers and thoughts your way. Joanne xxxx
RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
Hello Donna
my daughter was murderd at 23
how your child loses there life should still be respected by family and friends
what they think or say dont matter
take care xx
RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
reading these posts i got goosebumps
i think you are amazing in bringing up your grandchildren
its so unfair to you that people have been so judgemental of your daughter it makes me so very angry.i will be thinking of you and hope that in time people wwill see that with their judgement they are hurting you
anne is right what they say shouldnt matter but it still hurts to hear peoplem saying these things about your flesh and blood
well done and take care xx
RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
for goodness sake a death is a death no matter how it happens and people should have more feelings for you my poor daughter kirsty was brutaly murdered in march,but i also have have another daughter hayley who is an alcoholic and she had a cardiac arrest last august, I feel so sorry for you god bless and take care
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RE: Grieving ALL ALONE for my Daughter
So sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. No matter what way or how she died she was your daughter. Your precious daughter xxx
In life we sometimes take the wrong turn, does that make us a bad person? No that makes us human xxx
Anyone that is judging your daughter should be ashamed of themselves, you need support and understanding at a time like this.
Take care of your grandchildren.
Lots of love xxxx
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