My daughter had died to an accidental drowning about 2 1/2 yrs ago. She was just 2 yrs old. I have 2 other boys Andrew-6 and Dylan-4 (twin to my daughter Katelyn). Along with my husband, they are what keeps me going every day. Anyone have similar situations, please feel free to talk here. I hope I can find peace and comfort here as well as anyone else out there that have gone through similar circumstances. Looking forward to hearing your responses.
With love,
Deana-Katelyn's Mom
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My husband couldn't really even tell me what happened cause he was just out of it. But later he was able to talk. We were suppoed to be going camping that night for our Mother's Day weekend. Well, he was doing a few things to the car and loading up some stuff. Travis had laid on the couch with his Baby, which is where he had been taking his naps. The spot that he was on wasn't visible from the garage door, but Mike had seen him there so he just figured he was sleeping.
Travis could get into any door, cabinet, and drawer that he wanted to- child-locked or not. So we had everything baby proofed. Mike doesn't really know if he had locked the key lock on the back door or if Travis had just figured that one out also.. But either way.. he got out. When Mike saw that he wasn't on the couch, he started calling Travis. He checked in all the boys' rooms and all over the house. That when he ran into the back and found him in the pool.
I honestly could never blame him for this happening. But he blames himself. We really have a great relationship. This accident has actually brought us closer. However, I do feel that his guilt is eating him up so much. I just don't know how to help him with that..
Again- this website has really helped me see that losing a child doesn't mean that you have to stop living. My child had so my life in him. I feel that it would be a disgrace not to continue his love for living and enjoying every moment that we have..
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dear crystal,
im glad you have found this site, its helped me so much and hope it will do the same for you. im so sorry for you loss but know we are here to help however we can, whenever you want to talk. my eyes filled with tears as i read ur story and then travis' page, he is a truly beautiful angel and im sure hes flying high and free, he is never to far from ur side and will live on forever in ur hearts and memories. my thoughts are with u along this hard journey, my love to u nd ur beautiful travis xoxo
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thinking of you all and hoping you and ur families are going ok.
sendeing my love to your angels every single day xoxo
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Hi Mary. Glad you responded. I think everyone is so busy these days. Can't seem to get time to get on much. My internet was acting up for awhile and now finally working ok. Was able to get on here and there. Hope you are doing well yourself. I just got my oldest son into a grief camp this last weekend and he had a blast. He loved it, he wants to go again next year. Everyone was so loving, caring and very supportive. He actually was there for 2 days. He got so many things, played lots of outside games, activities, and had participated in some crafts, and support groups. Maybe something to think about for you or anyone else interested for kids. It's a wonderful thing. They had hosted a memorial ceremony as well on the last day, in which the kids wrote good bye letters. So very sad, and emotional, but very healing. Just thought I'd share that with you. Lots of love to you and all,
Deana
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just a quick hello to u all, i no we r all so busy and its hard to get time to stop and chat but i hope u r all going ok. my love is always with you all and ur angels. goodnight too you all xoxo
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Hi Crystal, I am so very sorry for your loss. It's really too bad that we all have to meet this way under these circumstances. I feel very badly that I missed your posting. I truly am so sorry and I know what your going through. It breaks my heart to have read your story. Y'know my story is similiar in that my husband was outside when my beautiful Katelyn wondered into a pond in the woods. But I never once blamed him, but I know the guilt had been with him for along time. Now it doesn't show so much, he realizes that there was nothing we could do and he did try to save her. I actually blamed myself too and saying those shoulda, coulda, woulda's. We were actually getting dinner ready then getting boat ready to go for a ride on the river. But, what I can say is that it will get easier not telling you that it's better but you will tend to have miserable moments which won't be as bad as they are now for you. You will also find happy times and you won't feel guilty anymore. You have to live your lives your precious Travis would want that. You know that, too. But, you can keep his memory alive by doing a website in his honor and making you sure you involve him in your conversations as much as you can especially with your other children. Counseling groups are helpful especially for your kids. Hope you can find peace. I am thinking of you. Please keep writing to us. I will be here as much as possible for you.
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just stopping by to let you know i am thinking of you all and ur beautiful angels. hope all is going well in ur lives, sending my love to you all xoxo
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