I dont know how to get over my brother and mothers death it hurts my mum died many years ago but the pain gets worse each year as for my brother dwayne his death has hit me hard and i dont know how to deal with it i miss them both and to be honest i scared that i cant cope on earth without them i want to be with them and i scared that will be soon xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RE: death of loved ones too much to bare....help
sorry to hear about your losses at such a young age. I am alot older and find it difficult daily. You have made a good step in asking for help. I was reading earlier a post from Dee-Jay Gane on Losing a parent so young and wonderd if you had seen it. continue to stay strong x
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Gemma your mum and brother are always with you and you are not alone sweetheart just ask for help and it will come to you,God bless you,Margaret xxx
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Gemma try and be strong hunni, I do understand how the loss of your loved ones has affected you, but stay strong, you can ALWAYS contact me okay, i,m here for you so never be alone.
Luv Terry
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hi gemma,so sorry 4 ur loss,but u ave 2 be strong 4 urself,i no at d moment tere may seem like teres no way out of feeling d pain ur feeling but i promise u it will lighten a little in time,life is 4 liveing please drag urself back up as im sure ur mam+ur brother wouldent want u tinking wat u do,blive me i wanted 2 die after watching my sis dieing from aids she hung on 4 17 days+d pain she was 37 she screamd+roared+its sumtin ill nev get over but in time i relised she,d want me 2 live my life+enjoy it as lifes 2 short,so please if u need to talk or jus get tings off ur chest u just write 2 me ,chin up girl, lots of love theresaxx
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Gemma,
Grief is the worst journey we can ever face in life. It hurts like hell, makes us want to die as well, and the road to recovery is long, hard and sometimes almost too dark to bear.
You don't say how old you were when your mum died, and that's important because our ability to understand and cope with loss changes at various points in our life. Did you have support? Were you able to talk about your feelings? If not, then you may be experiencing unresolved grief - and that will have been made much worse by the death of your lovely brother.
It's normal to re-experience the grief of previous losses when another death occurs, but if unresolved grief is present then the consequences can be much more severe.
Please contact Cruse Bereavement Care, who have a helpline and face to face counselling - all free. Their trained counsellors will get you through this difficult time and help identify any pathalogical problems which may potentially delay your recovery. They'll be by your side for as long as you need them.
Your feelings are normal. You're not alone. You WILL come through this. xx
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please know everyone here on gts is here for you. im 17 nd dealing with loss so young has been so hard, uve been through so much i cant imagine the pain but try to stay strong nd seek help. ive been down pretty lw, but theres always someone who cares about you, youve got to stick around for him. im here to talk if you need me at anytime. take care, my love to you and ur beautiful angels xoxo
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Gemma, One day it will hurt less. trust me. I don't know you but i'll bet your Mum and Brother want you to live a full life. Get some help with this you don't have to carry all this grief alone. I lost my dad almost 20 years ago when i was 17 and the early years were a nightmare, I felt like nobody understood me, everyones lives went on while mine was in limbo. sound familiar?
talk to a councellor, a friend, one of us, whoever but do talk. We're all here for you. I notice your brothers anniversary has just passed, hang in there, and when you think of him focus on something other than the bad stuff, it doesnt have to be a big thing as long as its a memory that makes you smile, My Dad used to pop his false teeth out and growl at the dog with his floppy lips to send it loopy. Its a nicer memory to carry around and always makes me grin.
hang in there, you'll get through this.
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Gemma, grief hurts, sweetheart. It hurts like hell. It makes you want to give up. I am a clairvoyant as well as a bereavement counsellor. I PROMISE you that your lovely relatives are beside you. I promise you. I know a lot of people don't believe that, but those of us who have experience of working with spirit are different. Sweetheart, you will heal. And that is okay. You do not need to hold on to your pain in order to prove that you loved these people. They know. Accept that loss hurts so badly. And then, when you feel ready, begin the process of moving forward.
You will be okay. Spirit is with you. xxx
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Hello I am so sorry for your loss> I know that times are so hard .Dont give up . I lost my 29 year old Daugther in March 2006 from cancer .Befor My husband and I could deal with our loss My only Son 27 yrs old was Killed in a motorcycle wreck in December 2006. So belive me when I say it is very hard .I think about them all the time and I think thay play tug a war with me I go back and forth Remembering !! them I spend many nights on my comp. and i spend a lot of nights awake. i know the hardes part is being here without them .But the cowards way out is not the answer.I will be were thay are at when the Good Lord calls me home.Untill than I will do the very best that I CAN!
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My heart goes out to you gemma. I am feeling the same.
Jan 08 i lost my mum to breast cancer then December 08 i lost my sister to organ failier and now 1 week ago i lost my nephew due to the war in Afganistan.
Thinking of you
xxxx
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