Hello,
I just wanted to put my thoughts down on a message board as I somehow find this the easiest thing to do at a time like this.
I want to express my frustration that I have experienced the sudden loss of two of the closest people I have known within a four year period. I am 27 and in 2004, lost my brother when he was killed in a car accident - a trailer came off the back of the lorry and killed him instantly when he was going to work.
Secondly In October I lost my mum to a heartattack. She was very fit and healthy training for a bike ride in vietnam when she died suddenly on her bike. I grew up with my mum from the age of thirteen when my dad left and she was adament she would live till her nineties! I always believed that.
I have often thought myself as lucky after going to university, getting a good job etc but over the last few years feel like my life has just fallen apart. Sudden deaths like mine have made me untrustworthy of what the future holds.
Anybody who can share this or offer any pearls of wisdom about getting back on track would be greatly appreciated!
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RE: Dealing with a double sudden death
Hi Gemma, I am sorry for your losses, you have my deepest sympathy. None of us know what the future holds, only those of us who have lost loved ones know how heartbreaking it is and as you say we who have lost are more aware of our own immortality.
I lost two grandchildren aged 6 and 7 in Oct 2006 they were the light of our lives happy lively children.
I have no pearls of wisdom. What I do know is you never get back on track, Life does go on but it is never the same again it is changed forever.
Our track has changed and we deal with it one day at a time it is all any of us can do.
My thoughts are with you. xxx
RE: Dealing with a double sudden death
hello although my circumstances are slightly different - i lost my husband 6 months ago i know how you feel. i dont think life will ever be the same i thought like you, as we had been together for nearly 15 years, we both had good jobs and enjoyed life to the full nothing could destroy our happiness then bill died and my life was ripped apart and i sometimes feel as though i cant go on but i must because i know my darling would not want me to feel this way just like i am sure your brother and mum would want you to carry on. you must try and enjoy life for the both of them and try to be strong. take care x
RE: Dealing with a double sudden death
Hi, Im Sorry For You Losses I lost my two babies Suddenly, Jack Brooker He Died form a virus Just hours after being diognosed with it, and my daughter Eva brooker Died for SIDS, I destroed My, Mine are a wee bit diffrent circumstances from your but all sudden, .
Sorry for you losses again.x
Joe
RE: Dealing with a double sudden death
hi sweetheart my name is georgina and i am 29 i am so sorry for the loss ov your mum and brother you must be heart broken within the space ov 18mths i lost my brother and my dad both to terminal illness i no your pain and understand your suffering but you cant live in un sure ov what your future now holds no one knows why these things happen or even why they happen to us none ov us no what is round the corner or what will happen tomorrow there are some people who go by the saying ov live for today or live every day as if its your last and thats ok but even people who live by them standards plan ahead even if its just a dentist appointment in a weeks time or book a hoilday in the winter for the following summer so what i am trying to say is every one in the world never knows were live takes us but part ov life is to make plans and to be sure ov the plans you have made i can understand why you fel that way but you must start to move farward now it wont be easy and mat take one step at i time but you cant live sweetheart in the past your loved ones would not want that for you there is no fault or blame here and it doesnt mean you are cursed a heart attack is common even to people who dont suffer heart problems and your brothers accident was that a terrible accident if your not already have you thought ov seeing a counciler it really helped me and many others i no you are in my thoughts and please feel free to go onto my garden any time leave me a message and i will gt back to you as soon as i pick that messae uo god blss you keep strong love georgina farrimond.xxxx
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